Medication

Nice isn't it?? It will help you.. I always say take the novacine ..Goldie is a good dose as well! Hunter

The low feeling may just be part of the recovery, no matter what meds you've been put on. There's still a grieving process to go through. The meds just give you a little buffer, as you work through it, so you can function. Eventually, your mind will catch up with the rest of your body. I'm on meds for anxiety and depression, and I do feel better for it. In addition, exercise has helped tremendously. It wears me out too much to obsess or feel sorry for myself. Meditating is incredibly healing as well. Hang in there, and give the meds time to kick in. Also, give yourself time to heal. Take special care of yourself at this time, it's still early on.

I personally am not an advocate of medication, but that does not mean that it isn't the right thing for someone else to do. If your doctor believes you should be on it, and you trust your doctor, than you should be. Most importantly, if you believe you should use the medication, than by all means, if it helps, than take advantage of the opportunity. It will help, as it did for you when you lost your Father. Do not concern yourself with being on meds, while he walks around with a smile on his face. You must remember what you are dealing with. He is an actor and the world is his stage. The disordered are not happy people, they pretend to be, for the sake of others and for himself. He is a an emotionally crippled man. So please, put that thought right out of your head. Being consumed with thoughts of him, 24/7 will eventually subside, once you have recovered. It is a long process, and a lot of work, but the day will come where you no longer have obsessive thoughts of him. I still think of mine, but no where near as often. I think of them for fleeting moments from time to time, still daily, I would be lying if I said otherwise. But there is a huge difference in those thoughts and the obsession is no longer there. The triggers come but are much fewer and far between. I expect to have triggers for the remainder of my life, it is what it is. It's a part of who you are and what you have dealt with. The same as a war veteran, the war has been over for years but they still have thoughts from time to time, it's a part of who they are. I accept it and am willing to live with it. Good luck in your recovery. There is no shame on reaching for the assistance of medication if need be. And always know that we are here for you to help you through it. Stay strong!

I went thru a divorce, my mother's sudden death, and living on my own with 3 kids without anything....then the Narc comes along and brought me to my breaking point...I tried not to medicate, but couldnt take it anymore...the Dr, diagnosed me with PTSD....so I began taking the medication 6 days ago....my health was being affected...ulcer, thyroid, hair falling out...insomnia...so I knew that something had to be done. I have to function for 3 young kids. Everyones' situation is different....you know your body, and you know what would be best for you...Speak to your Dr. about it...it cant hurt! xoxo

I started medication cipralex (lexapro another name) 4 months post NC exactly because of the panic attacks. I was capable to stand pain, obsessive thoughts, sorrow and sadness, but could not bear the panic attacks. At some point I really felt it was hormonal, they would appear without any trigger, even when I was feeling good. Really "out of nowhere". I could not control them despite all my will power. So I am taking them since October. The result was immediate and tremendious. From the second day, against the well known fact that they start acting only few weeks after the first intake. Go guess... Maybe I was really low on serotonine. The only side effect is incresead appetite, yes I gained 4 poundsm but it's ok Never mind what he is doing. It is not about him anymore. Yes, life is unfair sometimes. How fair it is that we have a roof, we eat 3 times a day, we have computers and we can take antidepressant when some mothers in undeveloped countries see their kids dying because of the lack of antibiotics? I think we are still quite fortunate. Love Winter

Hi Emma - I haven't been on medication but you really must do what is best for you. I'm not an advocate of medication personally. We are experiencing some CD and PTSD though and it's important for me to keep completely clear-headed through this, feel the pain, work through it, keep gaining knowledge, and use talk therapy here on the forum with people who've had similar experiences as the best way forward. Talk therapy with a counsellor or therapist is probably the first best course of action if it is causing great distress daily. This combined with exercise, keeping busy, filling the day with activity, people, purpose - these help keep obsessive thoughts at bay until we come to the point where we realise we don't think about it all anymore. It's the anniversary of my father's death today. He died 3 years ago, aged only 60. The last weekend I saw my dad alive I spent most of it apologising to the N who'd physically assaulted me after I asked who a woman was and the question wasn't to his liking - the utter craziness of it all. I 'missed' the last weekend I could have spent with my dad. I'll not give the N any satisfaction at all. I found meditation a useful aid - find a motivational phrase/word and when the thoughts come sit comfortably, close your eyes, and breath through the nose, let the stomach fill with air first, up through the chest, and out through the mouth whilst repeating your phrase in your head. The brain can only cope with a couple of things at a time if you fill it with a phrase and concentrate on the breathing it leaves no room for negative thoughts. It may not seem like much but everything helps. Keep strong Emma, be kind to yourself, it takes some time for our mind and body to process what we have been through but we come through and are much stronger people. We were happy, and thrived before we knew the N even existed - we'll find this place again - very soon.