Most Narcs are very good looking Men - question for the group.

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#1 Mar 30 - 8AM
Arwen
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Most Narcs are very good looking Men - question for the group.

I have found that my narcs have been exceptionally beautiful and good-looking men. Do any of you have the same experience or is this just co-incidence. They are all also extremely caught up with their appearance. I found my last narc to be so beautiful that I have a very hard time looking at other men. Comments?

Mar 31 - 1PM
Scoop
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Oh good god mine was so good

Oh good god mine was so good looking it makes me weep , he had a stupid walk though and cronic erectile disfunchion so whats the use of being hot if you cant get it up and keep it up and you walk like youre boots are made of springs . He has this unabtainable aura about him and he knows it .. i gave him a run for his money though as i could turn more heads than him HA. That drove him nuts but i used it when he was particualy evil towards me when we where out , there is nothing like being abused by him but geting up to go to the ladys room and turn heads as i go ... i bleeding made sure i did .. know what i mean .. lol He has lost a lot of weigh reacently and quite frankly dosnt look his best which helps if i happen to run in to him but i saw him last month at a meeting and there was a time he was just standing there and he looked so beautiful it melted my heart untill he opened his mouth and i came back down to earth with a bump .his beautie is only skin deep , aint that the truth .. xx
Mar 31 - 10AM
neverlookback
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Good looking

scared to death I will never find anyone that I am so attracted to. I feel the same way, he had the nicest shaped butt I have EVER seen, his body was like a statue. He was not buff, but ran everyday and had nice muscle tone. Even his fricking feet were gorgeous. I would look at him when he was sleeping on top of the bed laying there naked and I would think, God no wonder he cheats, and woman are drawn to him, he has all the physical features the lucky bastard, thick hair, absolutely the most beautiful sexy smile I have ever seen on a man, I loved his dimples. Now I know this will sound really shallow but I compare him to my husband and its NOT PRETTY. My husband looks like SHemp from the three stooges, I know I am sorry that is not nice, my husband has NO ASS so when he wears jeans it looks like he has shit in his pants, they sag and there is NO butt to fill them out, My husband is also ony 5'8, and has SMALL shoulders, my shoulders are bigger than his for gods sake, and I am medium framed, its awful. On top of that my husband has a mustache, and he is short so he looks like hittler and a little dictator, and oh ya there is more, he has HAIR ON HIS BACK, ewww GOd I know he cant help it but I feel like I am sleeping with a fricking monkey and he is bald and has thick eyebrows, sometimes I will have to tell him, hey go get your eyebrows shaped some are like two inches long, CANT YOU SEE THAT? So being that he is bald all I see are these fricking eyebrows that stick out all over the place, and of course the gray mustache UGH UGH UGH, now I am supposed to have sex with him when I was with an adonis? God help me I know it sounds like I am a shallow bitch but my husband wants ME to keep my shape and appearances - well I ALSO want someone I am attracted to it works BOTH ways, at least keep yourself groomed so I dont have to make love to a fricking money that has bushy eyebrows.
Mar 31 - 9AM
helldweller
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looks

He wasn't "hot" or gorgeous in a normal sense, but there was something about him-something warm and sexy and it drives me nuts even now. I think a lot of it was that he had that devil may care look about him that only the rich have: that Kennedy-Harvard-sailing in the Hamptons look, you know? That "light." We should pick a day and post our narc's photos for five minutes. I know it's driving me nuts wondering what everyone's looks like!
Mar 31 - 7AM
fooled no longer
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Its hard to define what makes

Its hard to define what makes someone goodlooking as there is a lid for every pot. My narc has animal magnetism as I call it. He spends his life in the gym developing muscles, just dont ask him to use them and do something. I think the mystery of them the perceived puzzle an unfinished work is what makes then so fatally attractive to us women, no matter what they look like. We need to get Narc Radar and become allergic to them. Narcs should come with a health warning on the box. You should be able to return them after 30 days for a full refund!
Mar 31 - 9AM (Reply to #40)
Smitten Kitten (not verified)
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Ditto

"My narc has animal magnetism as I call it. He spends his life in the gym developing muscles, just dont ask him to use them and do something. I think the mystery of them the perceived puzzle an unfinished work is what makes then so fatally attractive to us women, no matter what they look like." Yes, mine was a magnet for me and I was steel (as the song goes). My missing puzzle piece. Now he's just a missing piece of sh*t!
Mar 30 - 10PM
ImStrong
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Uh there suppose to thats

Uh there suppose to thats what a narc is..nothing new...you just defind a narc..100% normal

"In the fiery pit lays a man with two faces.One is the face of a God and the other a face of the Devil.Beware He lurks your souls.Keep one hand on your heart and the other hand over your eyes. Let him walk pass you not into you.Ghost of love will possess

Mar 30 - 10PM
becsta777
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oh God...

My ex-N was HOT. And he knew it. He 'pranced' around knowing women and men were checking him out. I hadnt been with anyone as good looking in a long time, so I guess I found it flattering and sort of validating that he was interested in me. Its funny though...since being with him I seem to have discovered my own beauty. Ive even done some modelling and I'm in some advertisements in the local paper - way better validation than getting attention from a dirty narc.
Mar 31 - 10AM (Reply to #37)
Smitten Kitten (not verified)
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Funny, one of the reasons I

Funny, one of the reasons I fell for him was because he made me feel beautiful, gorgeous and sexy, which my husband never did. My husband NEVER compliments me. And I mean never, no matter what. And the Narc always did. Everything from calling me Gorgeous (as a nickname), to talking about how great my body was, how pretty my face was, down to every detail. Flattery - that's all it was. I'm sure he says the same things to every girl, but at the time I felt special and unique. He was calling his new GF beautiful and gorgeous on his FB page, and I really don't think she's all that attractive. I'm not just saying that because I'm biased, she really isn't IMO. In fact, in one picture of the two of them, I thought she looked remarkably like a female version of him, like she could be his sister. No wonder she's his dream woman, she looks like him!
Mar 30 - 7PM
AJRD
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Mine was ridiculously attractive

He is in his 40's, in VERY good shape, and just so good looking. And he knew it...
Mar 30 - 7PM (Reply to #34)
Arwen
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yeah mine too

except for the beer belly amazing body and I would love to be back in his arms except that since being on these boards I'm not feeling that so much now. I feel disgusted YAY!!!!!!!!
Mar 30 - 7PM (Reply to #35)
I'sWideOpen
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Jar of Hearts

Good song lyric's read it about being back in his arms.... You don't wanna be there......
Mar 30 - 7PM
I'sWideOpen
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Not really

I thought so from the start and still when looking back at different photo's kinda but mostly no! Short neck, big ears, and over all pop belly with skinny legs.... I did see that in the beginning and really wish the charm that made him so "winsome" to me was still there. If I had never know him and saw him walking down the street I would of never characterized him as good looking.
Mar 30 - 7PM
Arwen
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Their extroverted personalities and larger than life thing

...my narcs have not only been tall and big but as many people have said here, larger than life, extroverted, fun, BIG personalities in general. That's how the sort of sepia tone of our regular days on this earth get turned into technicolor by the narcs...they are brighter and larger than normal life. And that's why the fall is SO hard when they leave you in a heap alone.
Mar 30 - 6PM
Arwen
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i wasn't saying they had to be handsome to be narcs!

Just to clarify...I was only curious to see the responses/ What I see mostly is that no matter their outer appearance all of them appeared so ugly internally that it didn't matter how good they may have looked, and, that most of them were overly conscious of how they looked. My two major narcs both looked so much like my Dad it's scary, and my Dad was beautiful but big trouble in the abuse dept.
Mar 30 - 5PM
Susan32
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The formerly handsome

The ex-Psych professor was once quite cute. He was in the wrong profession, and I told him so, that he should've taken up acting or modeling, because he was into roles. He had a natural tan, sideburns, and one time he bared his mostly-shaven chest on-campus. Teaching was the wrong gig. The guy needed a script&an agent. And towards the end, a gym membership. He let himself go. He went from being a studmuffin to looking like he ate too many muffins.
Mar 30 - 5PM
onwithmylife
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My EXNARC

was very average looking but to me he was gorgeous because I loved the man, he was very concerned with his appearance, spilled coffee on his trousers once by accident and went beserk!
Mar 30 - 5PM
Hunter
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BEAUTY is in the eye of the

BEAUTY is in the eye of the Beholder!
Mar 30 - 4PM
Smitten Kitten (not verified)
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Mine was kinda cute....

and he became cuter to me over time as I fell in love with him. But I remember being a little disappointed the first time I saw him because he didn't look exactly like some of his pictures on FB, like he said he did. Funny, he looks a little different in all of them, even though they were taken around the same time period. Probably because of their chameleon-like, shifting false image. But the pictures were a few years old and he'd put on some weight which made his head look bigger. He has a great upper body (chest, arms, shoulders) because he's obsessed with them and always working out. He was always talking about how he was lifting more weight and getting bigger, how new muscles were showing, and how everyone around him was noticing. He would wear tank tops a lot and this IS one of the things that women were attracted to, along with his sweet, innocent, nice guy facade. He does have a gut that usually doesn't show through his shirts, but without one, it's definitely there and one of his biggest hangups. He was sexy though, and I was already emotionally attached to him before meeting him for the first time. The chemistry was immediate and intense the first time he just put his hand on my shoulder, and sadly, he may be the best lover I've ever had. He definitely knows what he's doing with women in that department.
Mar 30 - 4PM
OnlyChild49 (not verified)
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Good Looking!!

Yes, I met him online and he was better looking than his pictures. He knew how to dress, was very neat looking and other women noticed him. He knew how to put clothing together for his advantage - both colors and fabrics. But he would take a lot of time getting ready to go out. All this just added to the package. I still think he's good looking, but he may as well be ugly because of the way he treats others especially me!!
Mar 30 - 4PM
michele115 (not verified)
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I thought mine was attractive

But now that I know what he is...it amazing how he seems to have taken on a rather unattractive and distorted appearance...
Mar 30 - 2PM
momoya
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Cute

not handsome, had a very innocent appearance however.

momoya

Mar 30 - 7PM (Reply to #22)
ifinallygotit
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innocent face

Yeah mine too. Big grin like a kid - did not have mean eyes like some Narcs - kind and silly looking
Mar 31 - 10AM (Reply to #23)
helldweller
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ifinallygotit

That's it! Kind and silly looking! A perfect description. Mine had that grin, too, and big ears and a goofy kind of walk. I described him as "bumbling and adorable" once. A killer disguise! :(
Mar 30 - 2PM
Happy1
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Mine you wouldn't take a

Mine you wouldn't take a second look at.
Mar 30 - 2PM
miloka
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Mine was OK looking. Balding,

Mine was OK looking. Balding, which bothered him. Since our parting I hear he looks like a haggard beaten man. Says he wants to in case he has to do a mug shot for his vehicular manslughter, charges pending.
Mar 30 - 2PM
mystwoman
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I didn't find xnh all that

I didn't find xnh all that physically handsome. He wasn't totally hideous on the eyes, but he wasn't particularly gorgeous either. What drew me to xnh was that he was charming and very extroverted. He came on so strong that the best word I can think of to describe xnh was "overpowering". I was very lonely when I first met him, and he was like being ran over by a steamroller emotionally for me. I must have had a narc target on me that was a mile wide. Physically, if I were to describe xnh, I would have to say he looks like a bald Frank Burns (from the television series M*A*S*H) only with a beard. I used to joke that his hair just slipped to down around his chin (until he got angry anyway). Babe magnet he is not. rofl.

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Mar 30 - 2PM
Steph
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Mine was tall, broad

Mine was tall, broad shoulders, nice hair.....but as I said in another thread....he kinda looked like a cross-eyed beaver .....with his big front teeth and close set eyes lol
Mar 30 - 2PM
prettypeeved
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He's got a good body, but not

He's got a good body, but not as good as he'd like to think. Beyond that, he's widely considered to be one UGLY bloke.
Mar 30 - 2PM
dudette
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the most gorgeous man

I had ever seen.... I was drawn to him like a magnet too at first sight. Funny enough I remarked to myself that he was actually not good looking really, neither well endowed actually. I tried to find a good photo of him to show my Girlfriends and they went who? Him? really? There was always a huge dissonance between what he actually looked like and how I saw him....but lovely teeth, has to be said.... Heard about him from ex wife the other day. she said the dorian painting thing has happended to him lately. he s just turned 50 and looks "really ugly" she says.... Is he missing me? no I don't think so.... But my dumping him caused the chaos of the century. His internal ugliness is starting to show....
Mar 30 - 4PM (Reply to #15)
Susan32
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The chaos of the century

The ex-Psych professor started out as handsome. He could've gotten a modeling/acting job, if he had gotten some intensive dental care. He said he was letting his teeth rot because... Leo Tolstoy did the same thing. He always had good hair. In my sophomore year, he was playing tennis&had grown a beard. By my junior year, when he was railing against me volunteering at a local school.... he had gotten paunchy. He had shaved the beard, as always, the teeth were bad. I was dating, he was complaining about to his students during class. My classmates and I would call him the Poor Man's Colin Firth, because the two look remarkably similar. Besides, Colin Firth usually stars as emotionally repressed guys who have impassioned outbursts (e.g. "King's Speech","Pride&Prejudice","Another Country") By my final D&D, his beer belly was obvious, so when he claimed I was making sexual advances on him, I'm betting his colleagues were laughing. He was also getting drunk around students... even when the girlfriend had moved in with him. As another poster said here, the ex-P looks like a "fat grandpa." A far cry from the guy with Adonis blood he was in the beginning.