Most Narcs are very good looking Men - question for the group.

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Mar 30 - 2PM (Reply to #13)
It'sAllAboutMeNow (not verified)
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Dudette

LOL...Most of my friends did not think he was attractive either. They would tease me about his big smile and when I say big, I mean big. On top of that he whitenend his teeth because of course appearance was priority so you could see that thing from a mile away. Actually the cover of Lisa's book reminds me of him. Except he had terribly bushy eyebrows. I remember thinking on our first date, "wow, those are some big eyebrows!" Ohh how the mind distorts images when we are in love.
Mar 30 - 4PM (Reply to #14)
dudette
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IAAMNow!

wow, another pair of brothers!!!! yup, big pair of black greek eyebrows to match the white mop on top of his head and his hairy nose.....
Mar 30 - 12PM
ABC0311
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Not really

I don't think someone needs to be good looking to be narcissistic.
Mar 30 - 12PM
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I thought N was very good

I thought N was very good looking but now that I'm seeing him in a different light, definitely not! He also isn't concerned with his appearance but assumes he looks good whether he brushed his teeth or not or even looked in the mirror.
Mar 30 - 12PM
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Unfortunately, YES and IT SUCKS

Gorgeous from head to toe. His body was perfection, too. He does not look 48. Maybe 37 with a 6 pack. And tall, 6'2". But even worse than all that, he oooozed an insane amount of sex appeal. What an asshole! And on TOP of all of that, he makes a TON of money. I mean, a SICK AMOUNT. He didn't make that much $ the first year we met, but eventually he did- he called me his muse, HA what a joke. And today with all the money he makes and good looks, it has corrupted him even more. Although he spoiled me rotten, the drawback to the money was more toys = more women. He has women throwing themselves at him. Infront of ME too. It WAS HORRIBLE AND SICK TO WITNESS THIS! It makes me sick thinking about how jealous and scared I was. And add the "knowing" that there was something seriously wrong with him, but didn't know what at the time...It was HELL. The confusion of wanting so desperately to marry him and wanting him even more when women were throwing themselves at him, it was too much to bear. Then he started pulling away which added MAJOR anxiety and DESPERATION for me. I became a very scared, desperate girl in a very sick situation. AND TO EVEN TOP ALL THAT, I was madly in love with him and now obsessing and glorifying him (I know, sick). I am scared to death I will never find anyone that I am so attracted to. So, as I try to date now...IT REALLY SUCKS. I know we should ONLY concentrate on what is on the inside, blah blah blah...Give me a friggin break.
Mar 30 - 12PM
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He was handsome but....

He was handsome but I do remember think I wasn't very attracted to him on our first date. He was tall, dark hair, tan and a nice body. It was his charm that won me over. Something that stands out was our first kiss,I didn't get that wow factor. Not because it wasn't good but as if I was warning myself. The reason I say this is because I was extremely drawn to him at this point and it took us a little under 10 dates to kiss. I'm not sure why either. Patience goal, I do think that they come in all shapes and sizes. The handsome ones are more somatic dominant verus cerebral I'm sure.
Mar 30 - 11AM
ifinallygotit
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mine was only cute

But he thought he was super handsome! he had women throwing themselves at him from being a famous athlete.... I have been with much more handsome men then him...but he definitely thinks he is hot sh__. He does happen to be very sexy - but shallow....What does that make me??? I am a deep thinker and care about people...why was I with such a shallow person???
Mar 30 - 11AM
indenial
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mine convinced me hes good looking

I wasn't physically attracted to him at all when I first met him I just found myself drawn to him like a magnet and I remember the first time we slept together looking at him sleeping and thinking how ugly he was ! I kept thinking his profile resembled that of an english bull terrier. I felt this way for a long time and quite frequently used to look at him and think I didn't find him physically attractive at all. He used to insinuate that he was good looking and the best looking bloke I'd had and how many other women wanted him and I was lucky and I remember thinking what !? People used to say to me you're beautiful what are you doing with him ? He's lucky to have you and that was women that he knew ! Most of my friends thought he was not attractive at all yet there were other women that fawned over him but I think that was because of his bad boy image. The scary thing is though is that when he started to devalue and discard me I started to think he was gorgeous and I felt like the least attractive of the two of us. I still do look at him now and want him and find him so attractive yet I'm seeing through his mask and trying to break free. I guess I'm blinded ! He thinks he's gods gift ! I still can't quite decide
Mar 30 - 11AM
JRB123
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one hot - one not!

The N I met in my 20s was the best looking man I'd ever met, thick brown hair, olive skin, piercing blue eyes and very tall. Great sense of humour too! He was so handsome people would comment on how good looking he was. Great as a friend but a nightmare as a lover! He had a choice of many women who threw themselves at him. He worked his way through every woman I knew at the time and bedded them all! The recent one is not good looking but not awful either, kind of average, grey hair, well built and very manly looking. Women are attracted to him as he is a cop and does charity stuff (however this seems to be done mainly to gain admiration and to impress and attract people)
Mar 30 - 10AM
Bitter-sweet
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Self-image

Mine was very handsome when we first met. Then when he got in touch again, he told me in our first phone call: 'By the way, I still look just the same'(meaning as when he was 20- he was 46 by then). Big red flag, thinking you don't age. Also he told me (before we met up again) that the only thing that could possibly matter to him was if I had put on a lot of weight in the interim (25) years! Talk about shallow. It's true, they come in all shapes and sizes but watch out for the vain ones. On top of evrything else who wants to end up with a man who spends more time in the bathroom than you do!
Mar 30 - 9AM
sara-smile
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Crooked Teeth

Mine was gorgeous from a distance! LOL He had crooked teeth and was in dire need of a cleaning at the dentist! It was his charm that blinded me. I saw him last week and took a good hard look at him and he is nothing like I had him built up to be. All the hard partying he does has given him major wrinkles around his eyes and his eyes have very dark circles around them. He's not the handsome Prince Charming my mind made him out to be!
Mar 30 - 9AM
Smarterthanever
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Mine is fat and ugly but

Mine is fat and ugly but compensates with frightening charm and personality when he is in seduction mode. He is very successful in seducing women inspite of his marginal looks. Scary!!!
Mar 30 - 8AM
Hunter
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They come in all shapes and

They come in all shapes and sizes!