my hN is seething with jealousy because im moving on, is now calling me a whore

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#1 May 20 - 3AM
jaycee
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my hN is seething with jealousy because im moving on, is now calling me a whore

my hN is seething with jealousy because im moving on and he cant stand it. he freaked out on the phone the other day and was screaming im a c**t and a whore etc.... i laughed and told him he was thinking of the wrong woman, im not the whore, im just the wife whose moving on, guess they can take a dose of their own medicine, and he cant stand im not here for him to stomp all over, lets see how he likes feeling sick to his stomach thinking of me being happy and be with someone else. im glad to know there are nice human beings in the world, too bad a narc cant take what he gives......psycho, lol........hope he realizes im so done.........

May 22 - 5PM
booboo35
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Reading some of your comments

Reading some of your comments I am so glad i never had Children to my ex narc, My ex narc is trying his best to get too me though and i can get another boyfriend, Well i hope i can in the future, But i feel so bitter and angry, Someone on here said after 18 months i will start feeling better, 18 months seems a long way off at the moment. Why do they not want us too move on? They do not really want us but they do not want any one else having us too, There sick, Or they want us and still carry on abusing us like it is there god giving right, like we are there fucking property, Do you know what? after being with narc off and on 13 years, I don't even know who i am anymore, I need to find out who i am, Do any of you feel like that too? x

STAY STRONG!! XX

May 23 - 3PM (Reply to #14)
jaycee
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booboo

you sweet darling, im so sorry you feel this way, believe me, we all do, i had no idea who i was for the longest time, but i do promise you this, if you move on completely, you will find yourself again, i have been so happy the past few weeks, laughing again, loving again, and guess what there is a rainbow at the end of the storm, trust me. feel better stay strong and find yourself again. xoxo jaycee

Jaycee

May 22 - 9AM
blessingindisguise
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Narcs Who Use Their Children....

The same thing is happening to me. It is so sick and twisted how the narcs are willing to use their own children against their mother. All I can say is that keep being a great positive role model and example for your children, keep taking the high road, etc. It does make a difference. We are the strong anchors. They are depending and needing us to be our best selves.
May 20 - 5PM
sickandtiredofit
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hope some people remember me and my story...

i do not want to rehash too much, but i was married to my narc for ten years. i started making a plan to leave when my suspicions about the OW were confirmed. He only admitted an emotional affair, but I saw it as much more. He spent money and time on her when he abused and neglected us. He shared jokes about me with her and toted her around like arm candy while he left me and my son home waiting for him. My tales is so similar and pathetic and I am sad to say it took an OW for me to wake up. The emotional, psychological, financial stuff i took in stride and chocked up to alcoholism. I fell so low that I hated myself and my life. A while back, I found this site and with the help of you women I was able to leave. I wish I could say all is great, but like you, I have a child and he uses him like a tool.It breaks my heart to see my little guy get sucked in. The narc is giving him the attention he so craved while manipulating him and telling him such things as I am a liar, I slept with another guy while we were together and he probably has a disease from me. My son is 9 by the way. There is light at the end of the tunnel and i can honestly say, i am happier than i have been in years Please believe me, I was scared to death, but I assure you, my only regret was that I did not get out six years earlier. Trust me.
May 21 - 6AM (Reply to #9)
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sickandtired

thank you for reminding me the only thing i should regret is not getting rid of him twenty some odd years ago. im not scared though, im just confused as to why its ok for him to have had multiple, i mean multiple affairs and now lives with ow, but i cant be happy and be with someone, whom by the way, rocks my world with his kindness, and this makes me a c**t and a whore. it so middle school, i really feel like im in middle school, and now a couple days later, hes on his ignoring me kick, wouldnt look at me, as if i were the leper, screw him, i know i deserve better.

Jaycee

May 21 - 11AM (Reply to #10)
sickandtiredofit
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same here Jaycee...

I moved on - met a new guy, which infuriated him. he has cut him up and down to my son, who really likes him. The new guy is kind and soft-spoken and encourages my son. He helps him in a gentle loving way and I see my son relax with him. My narc hates anyone else's happiness and relishes the pain that he sees which he has inflicted in others. My son feel inadequate everyday, and I get it, because the narc did the same thing to me and I am a grown up! My son id angry with me now, not because he believes all of the horrible thing my narc says about me, but because I am the one who it is safe to be angry with -I love him unconditionally, but honestly, it breaks my heart that he is damaged by him. We are both getting therapy, but this wound will take a long time to heel and I feel like the narc will continue to devalue me for the rest of our lives to my son, which in the end is so unfair to both of us. The best thing you can do for your son is love his mother - how can he not get that?
May 22 - 1AM (Reply to #11)
jaycee
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sickandtired

Im so sorry your n is inflicting pain on you and your child, he is a true n, and mine is as well. my hN actually used the line, the best thing i can do for my children is love their mom, yeah, right, he must have heard it from a movie, lol. they are evil and you are right moving on infuriates them, but guess what, thats their problem, the only thing is, they try to use the children, no matter what age, to get to the mom, i wont let him, im done, and glad you are as well. continue to see the therapist, and like my daughter, your son will be angry but he will eventually realize, you were the only unconditional love hes ever had.....good luck to you and be well..........xoxo

Jaycee

May 20 - 8AM
jaycee
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great replies, all true

my God, they are all scum, i guess they are all related somehow, whore, so not a whore, im the wife, and guess what he can seeth all he wants, but he is finally out of my life, and i couldnt be more pleased, i will keep him at arms length, but unfortunately, hes being cruel to our daughter because hes angry with me. oh well, she already knows what a dick he is, too bad shes craves his love and attention........and as for the ow, shes caused so much trouble and been such a cruel tormenting bitch, she can have him, watch what he does to her and her kid, lol, she will get hers, and hes getting his right now. xoxo

Jaycee

May 20 - 7AM
Tinker
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whore...

haven't we ALL been called whores?? it's they who are whores and it's mirroring... yes laugh. mine called me a whore last week, and i said REALLY? you, my exH and the guy he TOLD me to date who i got engaged to in the last 20 years? i'm SUCH a SLUT:) wow....makes my face flush it gets me so angry...
May 20 - 7AM (Reply to #6)
dudette
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mine calls

his ex wife a dirty stinking whore, although I am at pains to find out why I have not received the same treatment... or is it just because I never gave him the chance....
May 20 - 6AM
dudette
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Jaycee

Good for you lady! Keep him seething but keep him NC and stay safe Dx
May 20 - 5AM
findingmeagain
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Yeah mines does some things

Yeah mines does some things like this too . right now he is in the ignore phase thats cool ignore. but when i ask him when is he going to come and see the kids because i want to start doing things usually this is when he hoovers. i'm on guard right now . but he won't even come and get them and see this makes me think two things. he is mad because i maybe moving on or two he is mad about child support and the OW may have advised him to not see them. thats why i can't stand that b*tch. she caused alot of trouble in my home.
May 20 - 9AM (Reply to #2)
mynewlife2011
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findingmeagain

please do not let him victimize you again. Go to court and get the child support in order. The less he sees the kids the MORE you get..not the opposite. Go girl, he is getting NS elsewhere if he is leaving you alone..If you cannot fill out your paperwork go down to family services at your local superior court- someone there will help you. Don't let those babies go without just cuz their daddy out pimpin
May 20 - 6PM (Reply to #3)
Redhead1
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GOOOOO Jaycee!! Get away from

GOOOOO Jaycee!! Get away from that Narc. Screw him, his karma is happening. Just please go slow and be careful with the new guy.