My Narc Is finally gone and I can finally let go

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#1 Aug 21 - 2AM
ImStrong
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My Narc Is finally gone and I can finally let go

My ex is 35..I'm 29 we only was together for 3 months because I found out like every narc he was cheering on me. I found texts..also he had clothes of his ex and her child still on the house..plus he called her right infront of me lying and saying he just wanted to speak to the kid..well rewind in the first weeks..he already confessed his undying love for me and said I should only be with him..that I should stop talking to anyone..he even said he told a ex that he was seeing someone..and how she wrote him a long text wanting to know why..he made it very clear that I should not speak to any exs..and that he will do the same..well he lied ofcouse..he was talking yp many woman and planning to get back with his ex before me..who stuff was still on the house..now during the 3 months in the 2nd month the sex stopped..now I knew a lot about narcissim before..because if my previous ex before him..was a somatic narcissist..he also was a somatic narcissist but would withold sex from me so i would beg as a control tatic like a cerebral narcissist..his excuse was that we was above that ..meaning him ..he was above it very cerebral..I knew he was a somatic tho because he was dumb as a doornob..but in his younger days he said he gF a lot of swx partners..women was coming in and out of his house..like a brothel he said..people noticed it..well I wasnt the only one who he witheld sex from according to him..hus 3 year relationship the girl was fussing because he wouldn't give her sex..and the ex he's with now that was before me with the kid that's not his..he said she use to beg for sex also..so its a natural thing for him..

The ex before me that he was with..he was in and off with het..she kept coming back with her kid and he kept coming back to her..I was used for 3 months..and a rebound..nothing hurts more because he was perfect to me..I trilogy deeply loved him .and it only lasted 3 months because I had to leave he was still tslking to his ex and this other older lady he had sex with..he told me he's been talking to them through our entire relationship..

Eel to fastfoward now..after months of trying to get him back thinking i did something wrong..he never called me and only took texts from me..treated me like shit and a cold distant person..his words was robotic..it wasn't him the mad I cooked fir every Sunday..9 course meals..with a broken ARM from work..and his reason why he couldn't be with me ever..his words he couldn't see himself with someone so selfish..but I had a broken ARM and still fed him..very selfish of the narc pure projection..

Well during the time of going everything I can to get this man back..he tells me ve visited his mom in Florida and he's moving there..well fast fiward to now..my Mon frirnd that he lives with and who he can't stand and talks about all the time..said to my narcissist mom..yes my mom is a narcissist..that's my other problem..well I told him that I know fee moving in doth her and get child..and thst hes a complete liar..his excuse was that he didn't lie..he just didn't tell me..still lying..and that he's at the hospitol with his sister now..still lying..and that we shouldn't talk to eachothet again..he said let's make a deal as if I'm 5

Well I sent him a funny text yesterday and he never answered..I guess its finally over..yes I'm dumb but I loved him..now I'm done for goof..he's moving the day before lwbirday..oh and he said yes she's down there taking care of his mother..the mother he hateddo much when I was with him..who I thought she was a narcissist. She could still be or not..but now there all this one big happyfamily..he refuses to call or text me when he's with this girl and her kid but they our entire relationship..he talked to her and disrespected me..O think he is so obsessed with her child because as a narcissost he feels he can leave a good impression on a growing childm.if the child sees him as perfect..thsts great supply..also he can mills the child onto being just like him a exstension..

Oh and he was abused and he said his mother was evil his father too..so he does have mommy issues..typical narc

Well the lady he lives with said she hated the girl..he was trying to get foodstamps when she was here..he always wants the easy life..so I guess he's going to claim the kid on his tax and get foodstamps now..I told him all that when I found out and fused him out..he didn't know I knew all of that..so I pretty much exposed him..

Um extrwemly jealous of the girl and the kid..I wanted him to move in with me..i was Inlove.we planned to get married ..we was planning to have a kid..

The girls family doesn't know where she is or her son where abouts..so he gas a perfect victim..I read the letters her family sent her he had in the room when ge was at work..

I'm hurt ..I'm devastated I feel like I lost my best friend and gained a enemy..

I want to know why not me why her..

I'm hurt beyond recognition

I am blinded by live and pain..he hurt me so bad..and he didnn vcare .its all about him..

He also lives to talk about gay people..well he gossips hevingly about people ..period and talked about his exs all the time as if they were trophies of bad relationships..

He talked about when he was working ..he's a mieticuan how the family memver of the deceased was always flirting with him and that she told hin she was a man..he told me that in the first week we was getting to know eacgother..ontop of planning our wedding..in the first week?

Then the other story of when he was in thialand in the marines..how the cab driver stopped them off arcs tranny strip joint..he said he wasn't interested..but i dontvthink so..I think heslept with men..

He also has a thing with prostitutes..when he went to Mexico to vusit his SIS..so he says ..you can't beleive him..hecallex me rmevery day long distance..just to keep ne as supply..soending loads of money talking to me..he told me there was prostitutes there trying to have sec with him on each corner..he even tried to get his sis bf to talk to other women he said..but he said it was a joke..not funny..its your SIS..

Then when we went to Atlantic city together for the night..he pointed out a prostitute the next day ..which cought my eye..he was saying babe you saw that..he's infavtuated with prostitutes and transexuap men..he also likes to point out gay men to me and women also trannys when where outside..

Well all of this is finally done now that I wrote it all out..

Can you tell me if he is barcissistic or am i over reacting?

Aug 21 - 7AM
Hunter
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You tell me..Are you over

Aug 21 - 9AM (Reply to #9)
ImStrong
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Love it..it feels so good to

"In the fiery pit lays a man with two faces.One is the face of a God and the other a face of the Devil.Beware He lurks your souls.Keep one hand on your heart and the other hand over your eyes. Let him walk pass you not into you.Ghost of love will possess

Aug 21 - 4AM
evergreen
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Prize catch.

Aug 21 - 3AM
ImStrong
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Please excuse my poor writing

"In the fiery pit lays a man with two faces.One is the face of a God and the other a face of the Devil.Beware He lurks your souls.Keep one hand on your heart and the other hand over your eyes. Let him walk pass you not into you.Ghost of love will possess

Aug 21 - 5AM (Reply to #2)
Lovely1
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What's the Infatuation with

Aug 21 - 8AM (Reply to #6)
Jareth
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Mine had been with a man once

Aug 21 - 6AM (Reply to #3)
GracefullyFree
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Don't Know that That is Consistent

Aug 21 - 8AM (Reply to #4)
Jenna H
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latent homosexuals

Aug 21 - 8AM (Reply to #5)
florence (not verified)
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It's JUST sex