My Narcissist landed me in the ER last night!

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#1 Mar 20 - 3PM
Jodie
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My Narcissist landed me in the ER last night!

Ladies, I am 100% done. As God as my witness. Today I got his number blocked and am fililng for divorce next week.

He called to tell me that he is leaving for Europe last night with a bunch of guys from the gym that I've never met to "relax." What????? And he's been on MY BACK DAILY for money!! But he can afford to fly to Europe?? I'm sure it's to get prostitutes and do coke. When I expressed concern (as we are very, newly separated) he said, "Quit grilling me! Why can't you just be happy for me for once?!"

I was crying on the phone and he said, "See you do this every time!!! You can't just be NORMAL!!! You're normal for like 5 minutes then you have to start crying!!! STOP CRYING!!!! Why don't you take up a hobby or something. Everything is fine. This is ridiculous. I go to the gym, you need to do something too. Look what you are doing!! See, this is WHY we can't work things out. It's not working!!! You're either a cold hearted bitch or a crying mess!!!" He was screaming this at the tops of his lungs. He then said, "Sheeww I'm sorry I just can't help it sometimes. I love you and I'm sorry and I want you to know that."

I told him NOT to call me when he gets back from Europe and he said, "Then you'll show me how you really feel!!!" What? Because I won't take his abuse anymore? I was sobbing uncontrollably while driving.

I went home and started having major chest pains, and my heart started pounding out of control, then my heart actually STOPPED beating a few times. I drove MYSELF to the ER. They put me on an EKG, my blood pressure was sky high, my pulse rate was 110 just lying down. They took my blood pressure 3 times and it didn't go down. I was having severe anxiety due to this stress. The doctor said whatever my mind is going through right now, my heart is reacting...and I have to get this under control. I was put on meds, given a shrink's name and sent home.

Listen to me ladies, never will I EVER let a man get me to that point again in my lifetime. Never. This was the final straw.

Mar 21 - 12AM
Lisa E. Scott
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Jodie

Hi Jodie, Sorry to hear what happened. Are you ok?
Mar 20 - 7PM
Barbara (not verified)
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You don't need a shrink

Counseling for PTSD yes. Shrink? No. http://howtospotadangerousman.blogspot.com/2008/07/ptsd-as-trauma-disorder-not-psychiatric.html You may want to see the police or a paralegal and get a No Contact Order in place for the boy when he returns from his debauchery vacation, too.
Mar 20 - 4PM
Barbara (not verified)
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use this time

TO: 1. CHANGE your phone number AND make the new number a private number (the phone company will be GLAD to do it - just tell them you JUST got out of an abusive relationship) 2. RETURN all mail, packages etc "RETURN TO SENDER - DELIVERY REFUSED" - unopened and unread. 3. CHANGE YOUR LOCKS. I have seen too many of these bastards make copies of your keys when you didn't know it. 4. DO NOT BACKSLIDE - if he shows up at your door - call the police IMMEDIATELY to have him removed. IMMEDIATELY. 5. Get yourself into counseling. NOW. Start reading: Lisa's book Sandra Brown MA's website & books Start here: http://howtospotadangerousman.blogspot.com/2008/11/power-of-relapsing.html http://howtospotadangerousman.blogspot.com/2007/12/hate-and-your-potential-for-relapse.html http://abusesanctuary.blogspot.com
Mar 20 - 5PM (Reply to #2)
Jodie
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He was stalking me. He found

He was stalking me. He found out where my apartment was and sat outside of it for a week straight trying to spot me coming out walking the dog. He even went into the leasing office and put on his best face, gorgeous smile and his charm and said, "I'm a friend of Jodie's. Can you tell me which apartment she lives in?" They adamantly denied him. All of this effort because he wants me to sign off on damn taxes. If only he would have put that much effort into the "love" he gave me during the relationship. PATHETIC.

"Cry now because you lost him or cry later because you have him."

Mar 21 - 5AM (Reply to #3)
grossot
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Jodie Let us know how you

Jodie Let us know how you are doing. I'm so sad for what you've gone through. But I'm not sad for you as a person. You are getting out of a very scary relationship. You can walk away knowing you did nothing wrong. Like all of us here, you fell in love with a fake, vain unhappy body (Can we even call them people?) Please take care of yourself. You need to have your thyroid levels checked out and ask about beta blockers for your heart. keep writing - we will be here for you! nolongercontrolled
Mar 22 - 4PM (Reply to #4)
Jodie
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Thanks...

I'm doing better; thanks everyone for your concern. I haven't been eating much but other than that I'm going to be OK. It was horrible...the whole ER experience and what he has done to my mind, body and soul. My thyroid is OK and they gave me anti anxiety pills for my heart rate and blood pressure. I can't wait for this nightmare to be over with.

"Cry now because you lost him or cry later because you have him."

Mar 22 - 5PM (Reply to #5)
Lisa E. Scott
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Jodie

Jodie - I'm so glad to hear you're doing better. The ER experience must have been horrible. I'm glad your thyroid is ok and the anti-anxiety pills should help. You will get through this. I know right now, it is overwhelmingly difficult and painful, but things will get easier and all the hard work you're doing right now will be so worth it. We're here for you! Stay strong, Lisa