N Contacted me after 6 months

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#1 May 18 - 3PM
moving on
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N Contacted me after 6 months

So basically my story is, I met the narc, gave him money, attention, food, basically everything. Then he moved and never would contact me. Then found out that he had a girlfriend all of a sudden when he told me that he would be moving back. Um, so I posted a datingpsychos profile, contacted his current gf to tell her about him, which didn't work at all, and now, after all this with NO CONTACT from him for 6 months, he calls me and leaves me a voicemail as follows...
"hey um i need to speak to you immediately um look we need to claer some things out. I've been really busy with my own personal life..what you're doing to me has caused me enough embarassment and you have separated me and my family and you caused a lot of hurt and pain. Now you're affecting my career and it's hindering me from getting a job, my prospect employer looked me up on google and saw the profile you posted of me. I don't know what you're doing why you're doing it or what impressions you have of me and who you've contacted. I'm not a bad person. I've made mistakes in my past relationships but that does not make me a bad person. However much money you want, i'll deposit into your account right now. I'm asking you to not destroy my life and my sister's life. I'm sorry if I caused you pain or anything. Honestly, i'm not a bad person and i've never hurt anyone. I would appreciate it if you called me. Please."

Thoughts, comments?

May 20 - 1AM
moving on
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thanks for the kudos!

I'm glad this inspires some to believe karma exists and that payback is a bitch. The revenge is so much sweeter after all the emotional turmoil I went through because of him. Being devalued is the worst feeling ever and now I want him to have a taste of it. What's funny is that two days before he called me, I removed the profile out of my own accord because I had moved on to the point that I didn't give a crap and I didn't want anything done my own action associated with him. I'm guessing his prospective employer saw the site before I took it down. At this point, I am going to leave it alone because I took it down out of my own will, not his. Also a lot of information on there was exaggerated for comic effect. Of course he has no evidence that it was me though he claims he knows its me. It's so ironic that he called me after 6 months around the point that I almost totally moved on. It's like I was sure I would never hear from him and on a Tuesday afternoon there he is! I'm going to ignore him forever. I've gotten an infinite amount of practice while going through NC myself. I had broke NC so many times to the point that I knew what triggered me to do so and nipped it in the bud. I started taking care of myself, yoga, salsa class, and hanging out w/real nice people. When I first listened to the VM, it really made me smile. I loved that I instantly recognized the tone of desperation, the pathetic and overly dramatic nature of his way of talking, and the unnecessary urgency and indirect accusatory language that is his trademark. It's weird how I didn't notice it before but after that VM I can't believe I even talked to him in the first place. He is so empty in his apology and in everything he does and say towards others. The contact initiated by him was strictly for him and for no one else. He still only cares about himself. The most insincere part of his plea was "i'm sorry if i hurt you or anything." No matter how many acting classes he takes, that will never be true and I could hear the insincerity in it. So sad, feel sorry for someone who can never actually feel real emotion in life. It's like a robot out to ruin all emotionally available people. Too bad, so sad. I'm out of his spell. He can do whatever he wants, I don't give a DAMN! After the past year of meeting someone so evil, I am ready for anything. Bring it...
May 20 - 2AM (Reply to #16)
wallaby (not verified)
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WOOOOHOOOOO!

You have earned your name, Movingon!
May 19 - 2PM
Scoop
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I am so proud of you putting

I am so proud of you putting him on a exposure site and that his new job googled him i think that is brilliant lol I had a strange conversation with my narc best friend tonight , the best friend has things stored in my house and because i am moving he has to pick the things up . He calls me when he was with the narc , the narc made sure i knew he was there by talking in the back ground , see that pisses me off . The best friend tryed to get narc involved in the conversation but i was having none of it best friend" narc hasnt got a driving lincence have you narc , i said narc hasnt got a lincence " ...... it was like he was trying to get us to talk vier him . I cut the call dead at that point . Just hearing his voise made me sick , i was with my friend who knows the whole story .. she turned in to Barbara she said "no contact and change your number !"... no contact no contact !!!never ever again !!! Scoop x
May 19 - 12PM
nhtmf
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moving on

I guess I'm a little slow on the uptake. I exposed mine on dating psychos as well for the purpose of helping some other woman in the future. I didn't even think about the career part of the equation !!!! Yipee....you made my day. Gosh I love this site.
May 19 - 2AM
bubbles
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Spit or swallow it

I exposed my XN to his wife and family which I "thought" would finish the whole drama and give me closure... Nope! My XN's last words were "PLEASE DON'T HATE ME!" After he broke HIS 1 years NC on me. We met up 3 times and he D & D'd BIG time. I was sobbing my heart out asked him to get out of the car and I drove off leaving him there on the curb.. ( best place ) and I never looked back! Now again at 6 months 6 days NC I feel I'm about to hear... something. Keep it REAL!! Bubbles
May 19 - 1AM
broken23
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its only to help

its only to help himself good he deserves it. did he feel sorry ruining your life i cant wait till i expose my asshole.
May 19 - 12AM
azucar
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What a martyr

Just block him, he really sounds pathetic!
May 18 - 7PM
enoughalready
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Same #hit, same narc. They r

Same #hit, same narc. They r only nice for one reason-to get what they want for themselves. Ignore the bastard.
May 18 - 5PM
TexN (not verified)
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Priceless!!!

Maybe he'll think twice before he screws anyone else around...Naw! He'll do it again! Oh well, at least you got a little bit of sweet revenge...Don't even acknowledge his sorry ass!!! Let him sweat it & see who else will find him out!!!
May 18 - 4PM
Barbara (not verified)
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NC!

IGNORE!!!!! block his number or change yours NO CONTACT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! he probably just wants that exposure profile gone because it's getting in the way of him preying on new women - too bad so sad - F*** HIM! ~~~~~~~~~ Moving Forward: Coaching for Victims Pathologicals Feelings buried alive never die. - Alice Miller
May 18 - 4PM
miinx
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ignore. he made his bed, let

ignore. he made his bed, let him lie in it. narcs never change, and his 'im sorry' 'im not a bad person' shtick is just another bunch of bull. dont even respond.
May 18 - 6PM (Reply to #2)
gullablegull (not verified)
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that's sickening

again.....they all say the same thing. Mine said "contrary to sentiment, I'm not a bad person. I've done bad things, but I'm not a bad person." PUKE! They're not bad, they're gruesome, horrendous, disgusting despicable dirty dicks! Amen! Let him sweat it...Apparently what you are doing is working...and I want to do it too! Yeehah
May 19 - 11AM (Reply to #3)
moving on
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haha!

of course I'm ignoring him. That's what he did to me for 6 months!!! When I wanted to talk it out like adults, i got the silent treatment. When I contacted his Gf, i got the silent treatment. When I contacted his mom...silent treatment. When I asked him at least 3 times for him to pay me back, silent treatment. Now all of a sudden he says he wants to part ways when clearly he already did?? What kind of weird-a$$ thinks this way? He is so messed up in the head? So he thinks I'm going to answer now that his career is in jeopardy? Get real! All I'm going to do is exactly what he did...ignore ignore ignore. When he was ignoring me for the past 6 months, I felt powerless, helpless, and devalued. Now that I have control back, I'm NEVER going to give it up. NEVER. Now he wants to deposit whatever amount of money into my account? LOL. Too late bud. Should have done it when I gave you a chance. Now that he's totally exposed, he's willing to even pay for me to stop. I knew that persitent exposing would pay off somehow. The C&D my lawyer sent him clearly told him not to call. But he still did. Must be a desperate little bogger. Suck it bitch!
May 20 - 1AM (Reply to #5)
wallaby (not verified)
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You ROCK Moving On!

You are an inspiration! This is priceless! Evidence the exposure sites work!!! ANd you can turn the tables on him and feel the power back in you coursing through you - YES!!! Not a BAd guy - they ALL say that. No its true he;s not bad - he;s EVIL and he;'s not a guy he's??? a HUMAN REPLICANT creature the other day when I complained to my ex NH (by text) that he wouldn't pay for gymnastics classes for our daughter (or actually pay for ANYTHING at all for his kids - I pay it all and am going broke) - and that he "forgot" to tell her as he actually told her he would pay for them, but then changed his mind but failed to tell her, so I had to break the news to her and she fell to pieces over it - well he texted that he was not a "bad guy" and I was always trying to put the "black hat" on him all the time --- boo-hooo - he even sounds like a f'in 5 year old.
May 20 - 6AM (Reply to #6)
Barbara (not verified)
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not a bad guy - no... an EVIL REPLICANT! LOL

tell your daughter every time Dad says he'll do something for her to say "I will believe it when you put it in writing." If he starts bitching about Mom have her repeat "Dad, when you put it in writing and sign it I will believe it." I started doing this with exNH - man he hates me... too bad so sad ;) ~~~~~~~~~ Moving Forward: Coaching for Victims Pathologicals Feelings buried alive never die. - Alice Miller
May 19 - 12PM (Reply to #4)
Jessika (not verified)
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Soo glad this is bothering him

LOL.... he can't HIDE his deceit/ bad part anymore-- LOL! He wants the world to believe his delusion that he is a good guy. A nice guy. I can't tell you the number of times I've heard, "I'm not a bad guy."--- well buddy- good guys NEVER have to make that statement you ass!!!!! So glad this got to him-- ROTFL. No more hiding for you Mr. Narc!! I envy you... if I weren't so afraid of my psychopath I would have exposed him too... however even Sandra B. recommended that I not do it with mine :o(