Narcissists and the emotional scale

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#1 Nov 24 - 9AM
jen79
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Narcissists and the emotional scale

I read alot about Abraham Hicks on LOA lately, and they have this emotional scale thing there.

We are empaths. In case you are already better, you wont have any problems to identify, where your narc is vibrating at the moment even if you dont have contact at the moment.

And this explains alot for me now.

Here it is:

Joy/Knowledge/Empowerment/Freedom/Love/Appreciation
Passion
Enthusiasm/Eagerness/Happiness
Positive Expectation/Belief
Optimism
Hopefulness
Contentment
Boredom
Pessimism
Frustration/Impatience/Irritation
“Overwhelment”
Disappointment
Doubt
Worry
Blame
Discouragement
Anger
Revenge
Hatred/Rage
Jealousy
Insecurity/Guilt/Unworthiness
Fear/Grief/Depression/Despair/Powerlessness

Can you identify it? And do you see now, in which range he only vibrates? And do you see now, that the more you helped him move up...that he couldnt overcome the "boredom" stage...the next stage would have been contentment.

Abe says when you range at a certain stage, the next thing will bring you relief.

I can see now, that when he texted me, he was at frustration.

Then through ignoring his sexual demands, he was shoot down to discouragement...and then to find relief, the next thing was BLAME...

And I see now, he never moved up the scale ever to hope and all these positve emotions...and I am not talking about what HE SAID. I am talking about the emotions I sensed from him.

And I see now why he could never share the passion I had for him in the beginning.

THis emotional scale thing explains now alot for me.

Nov 24 - 5PM
NancyM
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jen79

This is an excellent scale jen, and it really reveals how, over time, they drag us down towards their level. The good thing to remember here is we can make it all the way back up to the very top even if we feel we have never been on top before. The Narc stays a bottom dweller for the rest of it's miserable existence.

Nevergoback

Nov 24 - 3PM
onwithmylife
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hi Jen

i like that concept of the emotional scale, I never found my EXN to be anywhere near the positive emotions, EVER, He was always of the bottom ones,not boredom, put the ones below that..
Nov 24 - 9AM
jen79
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And btw

you can use that scale for yourself too, to bring yourself in a better place, identify where you are right now...hang in there, and see if the next emotion on the scale brings you relief...and then hang in there, and then see if the next thing on the scale brings you relief...and so on and so on... This thing really works, it just needs a little bit practice. Right now I range between pessimism and contenment, and I have glimpes of hope already.
Nov 30 - 8PM (Reply to #2)
Sherbear
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I love this Jen!!!

This scale is so valuable for all of us. I read another article that also explained this scale like the children's game, Chutes and Ladders. We get a happy thought and allow it to take us up the ladder towards joy and enpowerment and then something negative happens to us during the day and we fall down the chute to the feeling that it brings us too, for example anger. But we have choice to stay there. We can process our feelings there and then choose to focus on another positive or happy thought or action that takes us back up the ladder. I love seeing where I am at and where I want to be and then choosing to go back up the ladder instead of staying down. IT'S A CHOICE. I want the vibrations that I am giving off to be of positive light and not the negative abyss that the narc chooses to make his residence. I find it very interesting that contentment is just above boredom. I rememebr feeling so bored and sometimes still do...but after a while I started realizing that I was really content being at home, playing with son, or just reading in the quiet, or just processing. I remember finally realizing that I actually liked the quiet....I was content. What a concept! Thanks for posting Jen!! xoxo