Need feedback from some of the veterans here

I feel this too, now after I deleted my email account, knowing no way he can contact me. And I am in anxiety now, but about my life, suddenly I feel like I have to hurry up, getting all done by yesterday. At least it keeps me busy. I feel like if I stop now for a second I will be faced with overwhelming helplessness. It seems we are all suffering from this anxiety thing, its good to know we are not alone. But look, if this anxiety might come from something else than him.

Ummmm.....I'm feeling it right now too. I am chalking mine up to anxiety with the job. It's either that or not having sex in months. Who knows. We just have to keep moving. I feel a lot of anxiety too so I'm not any help. Sorry and big hugs!

I think that we all have a six sence and we can sence that they are revving up for a hover . We where trained so well by the narc to tune into him that i think we can actualy know when the hover will happen or at least they are thinking about it . The reason we say NC is becaue we need to break the bond . Weather its super natural or chemical that bond we have is still there months after we go NC .It takes a long time to heal , you are just not going to be over this in a few months . Psycopathic people atualy change youre brain chemisty , they go out to do this so you become tuned in and dependent to them . They start with love bombing and sycophantic behaviour which gives us a huge high and gets our endorphins going and they do that to get us hooked into a relationship with them , they then slowly starve us of this "high" and make us dependent on them for our well being ..It takes a very long time to heal , i went back and fowards for a long time with the stupid cog diss , just when i thought i was geting better a new memory would crop up .Keep reading , when you are low and worry about youre healing time read and read some more , slowly it will click into place .. Big Love Scoop x

is the innate 'fight or flight' response so something in your unconscious is telling you to beware. it may be reasonable, or not (not a true threat) so i'd suggest feeling your way through what you're worried about (running into him, hearing from him, etc.) and how you'd respond, then try to let it go. the anxiety may abate then. i worry too that i'm not strong enough or far enough into NC (6 days) that if i'd hear from him, i'd cave, and my anxiety's high. exercise helps too. i don't think you're in a relapse, just a temporary dip which is so normal and expected, esp since you're so close. hugs!

Firstly - you are right that you seem to be well into the recovery phase, you have written some really helpful comments on here - to me and lots of others, and I thought you came across as very sorted and grounded in the advice you have given - has the Narc only recently moved so near to you? The anxiety thing is tough - am only now getting grips with what I need to do (from being on here of course), but I suffered with anxiety before I met the Narc (due to other incidents), and I think you are right that sometimes it kicks in for no apparent reason. From you previous posts, though - I don't think you will regress as far back as you were, and if your senses prove to be right, then you will find it easier to rebut him given all the progress you have made already. I am a long way from being ok with the NC situation, so hard to say if it happens out of the blue because it is much nearer the surface, but from conversations I have had with a counsellor (in the words of Tom Jones), it's not unusual. Stay strong

A big hug to you my sister. I have ridden the roller coaster too and am currently on an up swing. I would feel exactly like you do especially just before being contacted by my ex NP. Could be your spidey sense warning you. You WILL be riding that strong up swing again and in the mean time we are all here for you. Sending you positive energy my friend. Blessings.

Hugs to you honey. Sometimes unconscious triggers can set us off I think. I had a dream pof N and OW last night and woke up feeling uncomfortable which I had not done for a while...but it did not last when I recognized what it was A passing thought, a smell, piece of music etc..... This is a cyclical process, like waves that come and go until the waves are so small they are just ripples and the sea calms down again.... Stick to NC and have patience XXXXX D

PMS? And yes, follow your gut just in case! Be prepared if you have a Narc encounter! It will Pas. Hunter

PMS? And yes, follow your gut just in case! Be prepared if you have a Narc encounter! Hunter