no contact
no contact
for me no contact is nearly impossible. my xnh(then bf) oh ugh, and i have 2 children and a business together. fortunately, i don't have to see him as we do not live together. the indifference thing can work and does when implemented correctly. it is very difficult to do this but i work at it. most of the time i want to scream at him. of course in the past i have screamed and yelled to try and defend myself but now i know who he is and won't stoop to that level. i think they get off on it.
yesterday when xnh wanted to, for the millionth time, "discuss" our son. ( i suspect it is a way for him to get me to talk) hoovering a tad if you will. i once again repeated to him the solution for dealing with a teenaged boy who is behaving lazily and not showing much motivation. what is crazy is that we have had this conversation countless times but it is like he doesn't listen, EVER.
so at the end of this conversation he asked for his mail and i then asked him to change the address so it would go to his house. OMG! you would have thought i was calling the cops on him. he freaked out and said he wouldn't do that because he doesn't TRUST me. wtf?? what does that mean? what a weirdo. 6 mos. ago i would have tried to prove to him how trustworthy i was, etc. BUT now i just know that that is narcspeak, total mindfuck. it was mild but so telling and ironic as he is the one who got a new gf and didn't tell me first. what a surprise!! ha ha
i hardly post here but this site has helped me so so much to heal and learn and i thank you all from the bottom of my heart. you all are very courageous people and i love the support and insight i gain from coming here and reading, reading, reading.
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