OMG - Major Breakthrough Moment about Low Contact

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#1 May 12 - 11PM
abreva
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OMG - Major Breakthrough Moment about Low Contact

There is no way I'm going to let him disturb my peace.

OMG I get it!

Bottom Line: I value my Peace too much to engage with the EXNH-Psychopath.

It's been since January 1st that I began to participate on this forum.

Many of you know that I have been trying to figure out how to be Low Contact with EXNH-Pscyhopath with whom I share custody of our two young children.

He continues to break the custody agreement, neglect our children, triangulate, smear, etc. There's this one issue - that's a big issue - and he of course makes a mess of it, smear campaign - UGH just typing that gets my heart racing -- and that's the point...

I was just looking in the mirror -- doing some self-care before bed -- and I think to myself:

You know, I'm feeling really happy. I'm getting myself back together. Things are coming together. There is no way I'm going to let him disturb my peace.

Sure, I could contact the Parent Coordinator. You know what that would do? Disturb my peace. My peace is valuable. Precious. Necessary. Overdue. I need to restore peace to my life. HE is the insane out of control element in my life. It's HIM - not me - that is disordered. HE needs to stay away from me. I need to not engage. Sure, it's a bummer that he may show up at the end of school parties for my kids, and do some SuperDad show. But, I'm going to avoid him. I won't go. I'll ask my friends, the room moms to text me or something if he doesn't show up. I'll pop in. Yeah, I've been involved all year -- and he hasn't -- and it's not fair. So what? Life isn't fair. The room moms don't know the details of the drama, but they understand that I'm a great mother and good person and that EXNH-Psychopath is a freak on wheels. So, people understand if I'm not there. Whatever. My PEACE is valuable. My children want me Peaceful and Happy. My kids are so peaceful and snuggled into my home right now. They are fully rested and safe and secure here with me. It's Saturday - they are usually recovered from time with their Dad by today. Clockwork. This is my life. I want to be fully beautiful again and strong and unstoppable. Really. It's been a hell of a haul. And I'm just NOT going to engage with the Bastard.

Thank you everyone for helping over these hurdles with What To Do or Not Do regarding interacting with the Disordered Freak and His Minions in Crazy Town. I moved to a new town called Healthy Town. Disordered Freaks aren't welcome here. Neither are their proxies. It's gonna take a tidal wave to get me to Say or Do anything that engages him.

I'm going to have a Happy Life in Healthy Town.

There is no way I'm going to let him disturb my peace.

Happy Mother's Day everybody. This is the first Mother's Day weekend I've ever enjoyed. It's amazing! And our custody agreement has me with them every mother's day weekend, every year! Celebration!

May 13 - 5AM
Sparrow
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Happy Mothers Day to you too!

May 12 - 11PM
Emmy
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Wow!

May 13 - 12AM (Reply to #2)
abreva
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Oh Emmy you are a hoot!

May 13 - 12AM (Reply to #3)
Emmy
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hoot hoot