Once an N goes into a fit of rage, do they ever try and come back

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#1 Apr 27 - 1PM
dabussard
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Once an N goes into a fit of rage, do they ever try and come back

My N went into a fit of rage and vandelized my truck. He drove a power tool thru the keyhole and took out the whole steering column. Then he DD me like two days later. Saying that he never was in the relationship for me. He only wanted to ruin my marriage. Which he almost did. My husband and I have been on a friends only level for like 7 years.

I believe my N's rage came because he could not control me. And, because my husband has remained my friend thru all of this.

After an N goes into a rage like this, do they ever try and come back? I have been NC for 17 days. And, I hope to stay that way. But, I have weak days and moments and I pray he doesn't contact me on those weak times. I am in the angry stage and I am afraid of what I may do if I run into him anywhere. This anger that I feel scares me... Never been this angry in my entire life.. I have thrown myself into my work and my horses.. I am trying to keep him out of my head. This forum is exactly what I need to recover from this whole ordeal.

Apr 28 - 11AM
rainbow1
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Oh my goodness! Yes yes they

Oh my goodness! Yes yes they do! Do you know how many times I've heard he will never talk to me again? Never come back? Scream and yell and rage? Just to be back on my doorstep a few months later telling me he is sorry and we all say things we don't mean.

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Apr 28 - 8AM
Happy1
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yes! Mine has had many fits

yes! Mine has had many fits of rage and has come back. They are dangerous and please do your best to remember the danger and stay away.
Apr 28 - 3AM
CarolKittyGale (not verified)
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dabussard

I agree with onwithmylife, stay away from this man for the rest of your life. My Narc #1 was violent like this and believe me they do come back...they think they can push a reset button. If you let him back after this then you have opened the flood gates to hell. He will do it again..... only worse. Since all the violence in my relationship and splitting up 9 years ago my Narc #1 has tried to stayed in my life under the guise of my best friend but he would have come back to me as lover/boyfriend if I had let him and the violence would have began all over again. I let him stay in my life as a friend(and note I say I let him, they can't stay if you don't let them NC NC NC) and I managed to keep him at arms length to a degree and the last few years quite a distance as I was terrified of him but no more. I even at one point thought he was my best friend (she chuckles up her sleeve at her ignorance and need for validation)I have only gone complete NC after being split from him 9 years the last four months, they always want something from you, anything, money, ego stroke, sex, call you on the phone and talk at you about themselves lol...anything and if they don't get it they go into a rage. Now I don't answer the phone etc and am always busy which I am very proud of as he is scary and you can be brainwashed to stay friends to keep the peace. I nearly lost a son for the second time in my life in November and having nearly lost two children it put things in perspective in ones life. My husband died 13 years ago and I have been caught out by two of these idiots since, although narc #2 wasn't violent physically to me, I think if he could have got away with it he would have. Both nasty bits of work though. We have wonderful, peaceful life's ahead of us. I think I read in your post you work with horses....how fabulous!!! Sod him....block him....You have your out now....stay out whatever he tries to do to get your attention. Read up everything you can on the pattern of psychos.
Apr 27 - 4PM
onwithmylife
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You should

stay no contact for the rest of your life, this man is sick and dangerous, get therapy if you need to and like Agnes said you should notify the police of his vandalism.
Apr 27 - 4PM
agnesmurphy17
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Weak Moments?

If I were you, I'd be terrified of this man! He vandalized your motor vehicle with a power tool! And you this this is because he could not control you. He's dangerous. Next time he may attack you & not a vehicle. Why didn't you call the police & charge him with the malicious destruction of your vehicle? Who's gonna poay for the damage? Why didn't you get a restraining order? I'd change my phone number if I were you & my e-mail. I'd make it impossible for this very dangerous man to ever contact me again.
Apr 28 - 6AM (Reply to #3)
dabussard
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Thanks so much for the

Thanks so much for the support. I agree he's a very sick man. Funny thing is I can't and won't be controlled. Never, ever... He picked the wrong chick this time. I did not report this to the police because he would have done something else much worse. Afraid he will try and hurt my horses.... (Afraid he will burn my barn or something)...Since he knows that I love them so much and they are my life...The police in this town are worthless.. And his circle of friends are very dangerious and the police will not even confront him as long as he is affiliated with him. I am on my own with this problem.. Unfortunately... My husband is an auto mechanic and he has supported me thru all this mess. He fixed my truck for me. I must admit that this made me feel viliated...
Apr 27 - 1PM
Hunter
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Dabussard

You must realized this is not a normal person! You can not figure out one thing they say or do. It's child like behavior at best! Stay NC at all costs! They are all about control! My Three Words : Delete,Delete,Delete! Good Luck!