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#1 Sep 17 - 7PM
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Hey Guys I found this on facebook today I am not sure who the author is but I wanted to share it....some of you may have read it before but, this explains it so clearly.

For a psychopath, it’s not enough to end a dying relationship. He must also demolish that person and what she once represented to him. The higher you were initially idealized by a psychopath, the lower you will fall in his eyes when the relationship inevitably fizzles out. Hatred and contempt will fill the place in his empty heart, which was temporarily filled by shallow admiration and lust.

Failing to accept any responsibility for anything in life, a psychopath never really blames himself for any failure in his relationships. Someone else, or circumstances, are always to blame. Like a child who tires of an old mechanical toy and smashes it to the ground when it no longer works, so the psychopath destroys old relationships (along with their positive associations in his mind) after he tires of each of his partners.

A psychopath takes the process of ending a relationship one step further, to discard his ex-lovers with a degree of vitriol and hatred that astonishes his victims and exceeds any boundaries of normality.

Sep 19 - 5AM
greengirl91
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True! He has to "kill" that

True! He has to "kill" that person, if not literraly, then emotionally and spiritually. Let`s show those psychodudes, they messed with the wrong chicks!
Sep 19 - 12AM
ifinallygotit
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i was tossed as roadkill

silently after 10 years - never even knew this was his plan until months later...he ascted like nothing happened 10 months later - looked into my eyes earnestly, kissed me for hours and then abandoned me again... Said he does not know why we broke up...
Sep 18 - 7PM
monilove
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Describes my EXN to the T!

If anyone has seen any of my recent posts you will know that I am experiencing the wrath of a psychopathic EXN as I type this.. My EXN must have really idealized me (first two years) because apparently I have fallen pretty far over the last two years, as this man is on a campaign to destroy what's left of me. Yes, he wants to break the toy so no one else can play with it. I am feeling his wrath and hatred in a big way. He hates me because his attempts at controlling me have failed. It enrages him and now he is trying to make me pay. Great post.. Thank you! Monique
Sep 17 - 8PM
Avid
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This is so true...

I just found this part of the post. All I can say is OMG. It’s nearly impossible for victims to understand why somebody who made such a great effort to seduce you; who couldn’t praise you enough; who gave you so many romantic gifts; who said “I love you Baby” more often than “hello”; who seemed to be lost in your eyes could all of a sudden perceive you as a nothing and a nobody; insult your appearance, accomplishments and intellect; criticize and stab you in the back to others and–above all–hate you as the worst enemy of their lives.
Sep 19 - 8AM (Reply to #11)
Hunter
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You go girl.. You get it you are halfway home! Hunter
Sep 18 - 6PM (Reply to #10)
CaminoReal
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Burning bridges

This is so right on. Mine told me even before our 'relationship' began that he had burned all his bridges...he had no one to turn to. It makes sense to me now how he must have burned those bridges. He even tried to frighten me by texting late at night sending a very scary demomic picture of a man's tatooed face. He said "this is what I look like on the inside.". I believe the pic was a Vulcan from Star Trek... I have told him many times that he was trying to destroy me, that he hated me...
Sep 17 - 8PM (Reply to #9)
rosedewittbukater
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OMG is right

wow...yes yes yes!
Sep 17 - 8PM
needing2know
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When my ex was doing the D&D

When my ex was doing the D&D I asked him , how one day he could tell me he loves me and the next be so damn cold and just trow me away like I was nothing, he said "maybe I do it to protect myself" protect his self from what!!!!
Sep 17 - 8PM
juliamarie
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So true...

This has been the most difficult thing to figure out. He dumped ME. Why is it necessary to continue to inflict damage when he got what he wanted? I keep reminding myself that he is disordered. It's just hard to relate on any level because I'm so sensitive to other people's feelings. I've dumped my share of men...but I've never done it in a way that was demeaning and I for sure didn't continue to inflict additional pain. He is disordered...I get that, but I can't related to someone who LOVES to break me down even after the D&D.
Sep 19 - 1AM (Reply to #6)
a girl
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This! He cheated, he left -

This! He cheated, he left - I was willing (because I'm STUPID) to try and work on things. Yet he still has to lie to himself and others about me, to vilify me - why?
Sep 17 - 8PM
heritage
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Boy Avid

did this hit home! It is word for word of how he threw me to the curb with such hostility and hatred. Every relationship ends the same. He turns you into the enemy, smears you and wipes you off the earth!!They are disgusting to say the least.
Sep 17 - 7PM
rosedewittbukater
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Avid

Great post. It is truly frightening how they can switch it on and off this way, with a another human being they claimed to love.
Sep 17 - 7PM
Caligirl
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Avid, the last sentence is absolutely chilling!

This article describes how my exNP ended our r/s. Yep, I was a discarded toy. This cleared up the reasons why he acted that way. Thanks!
Sep 17 - 8PM (Reply to #2)
Better than ever
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It's sad that my exNarc used

It's sad that my exNarc used to tell me that he destroyed his discarded toys by smashing them to a pulp.....this should have been my sign.....