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Pretending he was cheating even when he wasn't

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#1 Jun 8 - 10PM
helldweller
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Pretending he was cheating even when he wasn't

Did anyone else find that the N would take advantage of your false accusations and admit to them even though he hadn't done anything? There was a time he was out and I saw him out with his male friends but he didn't see me. They were at a Bar Association Meeting. To see what would happen because he was such a freak I called him and left him a voicemail saying, "I know you're with her." He texted me back, "XOXO" Another time he was in Vegas with his brothers--all staying in the same room-- and I called him on his cell and said, "I called your room and a woman picked up and said you were gone" He texted back, "I love you." This reminds me of the wacko criminals who rush to claim responsibility for crimes they didn't commit. Anyone else?

Jun 8 - 10PM
enoughalready
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yes

He pretended our entire relationship of being someone he never was. It was all a game to him. All I know now is he lied about EVERYTHING.
Jun 8 - 10PM (Reply to #11)
broken23
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ditto. all i know is he

ditto. all i know is he pretty much lied about everything he could manage to lie about.
Jun 8 - 10PM (Reply to #2)
Barbara (not verified)
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liars

if their lips are moving, they're lying ~~~~~~~~~ Effective Coaching Specifically for Victims of Pathologicals Feelings buried alive never die. - Alice Miller
Jun 8 - 10PM (Reply to #3)
helldweller
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Barbara

After I first read your "If their lips are moving, they're lying" I saw a couple at a store and the guy was wearing a shirt that said, "I'm probably lying." I asked where he got it because I wanted one for my exN. The WIFE told me, "I got it for him." I thought, "Oh, my J*sus, don't let me become the WIFE of that." I didn't get the shirt. I started to wake up.
Jun 8 - 10PM (Reply to #4)
hitandrun
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Liars all the way

I have no idea what other lies he must have told. The one's I did find out about were enough to leave me in total shock. Got tested for STD's..am clean, want my money back,and he can continue to keep on lying to his little heart's content. Wait..he doesn't have a heart. Karma's a bitch and I am his Karma : )
Jun 9 - 10AM (Reply to #10)
happydaysahead
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Karma's a bitch and I am his Karma : )

YES !! That is SO perfect !! Best quote I have read in a while. : )
Jun 9 - 1AM (Reply to #5)
ACgirl
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What does is mean when they lie about something they didn't do?

Just last month, before he D&D'd me (for the 6th time I think, lost count), my N started to talk about one of the women he had cheated on me with. He said he ran with her at some stupid race. I guess my N hasn't heard about the internet, so I looked it up and she didn't register for it. He also lied and said that he was with her for another race, and I knew that she wasn't. So odd that he would lie about being with her when he was not. But it doesn't matter because he lied so much anyway because he cheated on me so much and I didn't know. Oh and yeah, one time, my N said to me in a text...."I went to the cardiologist today and he said there was a problem....I have no heart". Funny, at the time he wrote that I responded by saying....gee don't be hard on yourself. But the fact of the matter was that he was right, he had no heart at all. So, what would be the purpose of them lying about something they didn't do? Is it just some stupid control factor? Just curious...
Jun 9 - 2AM (Reply to #9)
aceonelady
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Acgirl

My ex N did the same...I think is because they need some reaction to feed themselves...They prosper with confusio,mayhem,arguments ...They only fell alive when they get some response from supply... a good respose or bad....is feeding time!

Aceonelady

Jun 9 - 2AM (Reply to #8)
aceonelady
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Acgirl

My ex N did the same...I think is because they need some reaction to feed themselves...They prosper with confusio,mayhem,arguments ...They only fell alive when they get some response from supply... a good respose or bad....is feeding time!

Aceonelady

Jun 9 - 2AM (Reply to #6)
aceonelady
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Acgirl

My ex N did the same...I think is because they need some reaction to feed themselves...They prosper with confusio,mayhem,arguments ...They only fell alive when they get some response from supply... a good respose or bad....is feeding time!

Aceonelady

Jun 9 - 10AM (Reply to #7)
Janet
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"N" did allude to a number

"N" did allude to a number of other women in ways that would indicate some involvement,e was passive and agressive depending on his needs. It was all designed to get me wound up, to go into a rage which was a power surge for him. He is full of hate, can see now how much he actively hated me, and just wanted to inflict pain. Peace. J

Peace. J