This REALLY helped ... Hope it helps others.....

I am on day 2 of NC.... I will NOT have contact period... bottom line.... Done !!
I have had the usual roller coaster of emotions, and have really been thinking things through... Letting me FEEL good or bad.... Also, self-compassion REALLY helps too.
But......... I had this thing go off in my mind and thought, aha, I may be on to something, because I started to laugh and could not stop the list.... When I was done, I rolled my eyes and felt really good.... Very good... Here is what I did....

I wrote a list of : WHAT I WILL MISS ABOUT YOU ( TO YOUR N)... ( not what I won't miss) And simply put all the really negative things into the after statement... I will start this, and if someone would be interested in continuing this thread go for it !! It helped me a great deal today.... Hugs in advance.

WHAT I WILL MISS ABOUT YOU :
1)You making a fool of yourself in public.
2) Your rude behaviour when you peel off dollar bills to servers. (The peeling of them, like you are at a strip club)
3)Your extra long pubic hair.
4)Your high-fiving everyone... Including me... Ugh...
5)Your skid marks I peeked at on time on your undies.
6)Your machine gun farting when running or walking fast.
7)Your public drunken sleazy behavior.
8)Your pathetic texts claiming you miss me...
9)Your insulting comments about my body.
10)Your constant referral to me as your little princess.
11) Your constant cheating on your wife and everyone else you are with.
12)Your broken blood vessels on your nose and the start of alc nose (aka, the bulbous ugly nose )
13) Your grimy mits groping at me when you can read my body language loud and clear to get back !
14) Your flim flam lies and deceit..
15) Your self inflated ego filled with helium.
16) Your wild and crazy eyebrows.
17) Your kind and gentleman behaviour , not opening doors etc...
18) Your being terrified of small dogs that seem to bark at you when we used to walk. Guess they could smell a REAL dog !
19)Your ignoring of my family and friends.
20) Your multiple phones, for your multiple lives.
21) Your continuous whining about your health, as slight as a cut on your finger.
22) Your constant flirting with the waitresses and hugging them as if they REALLY like you.
23) Your huge, generosity with gift giving... Those annual flowers from the grocery store... ( on sale).
24) Your unwillingness to help me out when I had a flat tire cause you were working.
25) Your complete lack of compassion when I burned my leg on your damn car...

I COULD GO ON AND ON AND ON..... You get the point.... Really feels good to do this !!