Rebecca31_99's story

I'm the Trophy Girlfriend no more :(

I would appreciate ANY thoughts/ advice/ info you may have would be so appreciated. He has property of mine. Will he try and contact to return it? Obviously seems best I should just consider it gone.

I dated HIM for about 2-3 months. Its only been 5 days since we split. Met him ONLINE.

The first three weeks we talked on phone for NO LESS than 5 HOURS EVERY NIGHT.

We dated for approximately 6-7 weeks.

My experience was short term. I am asking you to help me understand please...

He is OBSESSED with sex toys & pornography.

His collection of vibrators, (60- 80) inanimate objects, porn DVD’s would have out-done a well-stocked adult shop warehouse.
He has 2 kids age 8 and 10 living with him 50% of the time, both already displaying seriously unusual tendencies.
I have serious concerns for those 2 kids who I feel I’ve turned my back on. Are they at risk? They, themselves warned my own son (age 9) to be prepared “Our dad goes through lots and lots of girlfriends”.

During that initial blissful period when he wooed me. 2 weeks into it he is building a terrific crescendo toward an evident ‘Surprise” he says he has for me. The build up was astonishing. I am piqued and my girlfriends have opinions. One says it’s a romantic weekend, one says ‘He will ask you to marry him!! “O (er- he’d have to get Divorced first..), I am wondering if it’s the tickets to that promised ‘trip to Paris’ that he will take me on (Yeah right).

So the night arrives and a blind-fold leads me to the “Surprise”. Twirls and mood music. Blind fold off. And it’s a sex swing. Erm.

So it is clearly evident there is no gift surprise for me but indeed he’s bought HIMSELF (yet another) gift. The persona character he portrayed was one of high-class, poise and suave polite gentlemanliness. In actual fact he is deviate, crass, and crude and would often be disrespectful. Always seeking an audience.

Little did he know I would have been so much happier with just a bunch of $12 roses?

The sex obsession is truly weird. Is this typical of an N?
As soon as I started working him out his interest in sex waned immensely. He informed me he would restrict me of sex until I improved my ways (said I was constantly shitty/ negative/ procrastinate/ indecisive toward the end. Noted that all those high-lighted criticisms are exactly those which I use to describe my own flaws. He only endorsed them plus reiterated them 100-fold.

He dumped me like a sack of potatoes once I started seeing thru him. He also severely let-down his children and my son all under age 10 in the process and he didn’t give a flying toss.

At least now I do understand this so called ‘professional, fun, classy businessman’s DEPENDENCY on Facebook and Chat etc.
Is it right, I should assume that’s where he was seeking out his next victims?

The first time I was taken to his SHOWPIECE home… he insisted he purchased for me as welcome ‘a gift’, a Pole. As in Pole dancing and he was thrilled to the eyeballs with his new purchase for ME.

Hmmm, he then failed to recall his claim of it being a gift, when 1 week later he’s scrolling me thru his 100’s of Facebook photos –mainly of himself (I call them the self-validation files). There photographed and dated- is his home, with the pole seen. Dated 2 yrs prior. I held out on that one til some time later when it was appropriate. He actually appeared visually embarrassed on that one. In the lie phase he’d even insisted his children had informed the ex-wife (their mother) of the pole and about (me). And he relayed that the wife was furious. This delighted him.
OMG the wife – whatever did he DO to her?? According to him she’s an alcoholic blah blah. As in all versions of any story- he is the victim.

Please guide me. I caught him in his lies - my adoration slowed and he reciprocated to publicly humiliate and disrespect me, it was appalling. I, in essence finished it with him. I have property at his house. Haven’t heard from him since the split, 4 days back. I am deleted/ blocked/ slandered.

Is he finished with me now? Or will he be back. I’m so embarrassed and ashamed to admit this.. I miss (who I thought was*) Him

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