Remembering all the times they made us miserable

This seems to be a recurring theme here lately and an important one, I think, in our journey of recovery and moving on, leaving the N in our past. One of the best tools I feel I personally have in my healing toolbox is to immediately start thinking of all the times N made me miserable whenever I feel like I am starting to miss him. I think about all the lies (even about stupid things that don't really matter to anyone, like how much he spent on a shopping trip), how he had to be in control all the time, how poorly he treated people he didn't think were "good enough" for him, how he was so divisive - pitting people against each other for his own ego and gain, how badly he made so many people feel about themselves when he would talk to them rudely or insult them or talk down to them. He is just a horrible person all around, an embarassment, really, to even be with. And he used me, lied to me, manipulated me. So I think about all of this horrible stuff whenever I start to feel like I am missing him. Practically the entire time I was with him I was miserable. Someone else mentioned this, too..I actually prayed for relief, prayed for him to go away, prayed for me to be strong enough to end our situation. I am finally there and I will do anything to make sure I never, ever go back to the way it was...ever again.