This is the SAD TRUTH......

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#1 May 28 - 3PM
joyvbfla
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This is the SAD TRUTH......

the sad, sad truth of this situation is this.....I was having a very, very hard time with NC. I would do it for one or two days (maybe a few more) and then I would cave in and go back. I was posting on here all the times he would be with me during the day and then just leave to go meet her. He would call me when he got home (sometimes 1AM) and tell me, if you don't get over here now, I will make plans with her tomorrow.......and I WOULD GO BACK OVER THERE!!!
I would scream and yell and call him every name in the book for "cheating" on me. He would say that he will break it off and work on our marriage. We did this for several months.
So, I see now that what he was doing was keeping me around for as long as he needed to until he had his hooks in to the new supply. I was the backup, Plan B.....he was getting to know these other women (and 1 or 2 more in depth) and wanted to have them secure so he could drop me!!! He said I abandon him and was VERY VERBALLY ABUSIVE TO HIM AND HIS KIDS!!

So, this past Tuesday, I got divorce papers while I was at work...he filed and the court date is in August. I did talk to him once or twice since then, but not much. HE ACTUALLY TOLD ME THAT AFTER HE FILED DIVORCED, HE ACTUALLY SENT A LINK TO SOME OF THE WOMEN THAT WOULD NOT GO OUT WITH HIM UNTIL HE FILED......SO HE ACTUALLY SENT THEM A LINK TO THE PAGE AT CIRCUIT COURT THAT WOULD SHOW THAT HE HAD FILED!!! I was like, are you fucking kidding me.....he thinks he is so hot and in demand, he has to send a link to let his "harem" know that now he is availiable. I was furious when he told me that, and about these other women, but now I am a few days with NC, it really is pretty sad and pathetic....

So, as much as I would like to say that I initiated the NC this time, I did not.....he filed to divorce me on Tues...after several conversation, he stopped calling, texting, etc. Now, I have NOT TRIED TO CONTACT HIM AT ALL EITHER. THE AMAZING THING IS THAT NOW THAT I HAVE THESE FEW DAYS UNDER MY BELT....I AM STARTING TO SEE JUST ENOUGH OF THE REALITY OF THIS SITUATION THAT I DO NOT EVEN WANT TO CALL HIM. I have not even tried. It has been 3 or 4 days.....I am very sad and depressed.....but I do realize now that I must do it and it will get easier. See.........I am still here, and I did not DIE with NC from him....it has actually been somewhat peaceful.
Thank you all again for your continued support!!! Only 3 months and it will be final!!!

May 28 - 8PM
TruthbeginsToday
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Could he be lying,... YOU BET...the snake!

May 28 - 9PM (Reply to #10)
joyvbfla
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NO, HE IS SERIOUS!!!

May 28 - 6PM
neverlookback
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Joy

May 28 - 8PM (Reply to #8)
TruthbeginsToday
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I loved the first sentence

May 28 - 7PM (Reply to #3)
joyvbfla
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Thank God once again for this site.....

May 28 - 8PM (Reply to #6)
neverlookback
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I only say this

May 28 - 9PM (Reply to #7)
joyvbfla
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I keep reading and it gives me inspiration and hope!!!

May 28 - 8PM (Reply to #4)
onwithmylife
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Joy

May 28 - 9PM (Reply to #5)
joyvbfla
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I have been praying every day.....

May 28 - 6PM
uncomfortablynumb
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He sounds like a superdouche.