Thankyou Barbara,
For finding this. In 13 years of no contact with my parents i haven't ever read anything sound on what to do about the kids, hence i kept them away . My mum always said that she would have him when he was 16 or 18 and that it wouldn't matter what happened until then. So my son reached 15 and wanted to go and be with them, now he is 20 and hasn't left them yet. He complains about how they are and i have watched him change. After reading this article i feel guilty for letting him go there but he wanted to. At least i kept him away when he was young. I know for sure my other two won't be going anywhere near them and i won't feel bad about this in future. My son is torn with his loyalties and is living in denial of the truth. I feel like the lady in the King Solomon story who had to let him go even though it hurt me to do that. It was what he wanted at the time but my parents should have sent him home to me and they didn't.
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This is upsetting me too!