So Typical...

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#1 Nov 29 - 12PM
mystwoman
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So Typical...

I just attended a work meeting which served to remind me (again) exactly how NOTHING ever changes with xnh. Unfortunately, I'm still stuck working at the same company as xnh. Thank GOD I'm not associated with him any longer. :)

This was a division meeting. The time and date were clearly announced in a work email that circulated two days ago, and then again yesterday. It was expected to last about an hour. Today, xnh waltzes into the meeting 15 minutes late (typical for him). He made a huge clatter opening the auditorium doors, and completely interrupted the meeting making so much noise. Once again, everyone was turned around looking at xnh because (as we all know) the narc simply MUST be the center of attention at all times.

Then xnh stomped on no less than 12 people's feet getting to a seat in the center of a row, in the middle of the auditorium (no quiet back row for him - lol). Five seconds after he managed to finally park his butt, xnh starts raising his hand asking multiple stupid questions that showed what an ignoramus he truly is. Not only does xnh always have to be the center of attention, but he NEVER shuts up either. I swear he'll probably continue talking endlessly even after he's dead. I hope they dig his grave really deep so that the other unfortunate dead people in the cemetery don't have to listen to him prattle endlessly throughout eternity. lol. Xnh NEVER comes up for air.

A funny side note of this meeting was that xnh made such a dramatic ruckus that the director of the division couldn't HELP but notice him. This was a meeting where everyone attending was required fill out a sign-in sheet. Right before the meeting was adjourned, the director stood up and said (looking right at xnh), "Has EVERYONE filled out the sign-in sheet". Xnh was the ONLY person to raise his hand. The director made him stand up in front of everyone and go fill it out while the entire room waited. He pretty much treated xnh like a belligerent kindergartner. The director singling xnh out like this is a small thing, but I found it rather hilarious that, for once, xnh didn't get to be the "exception to the rules". The director was laying in wait for him, and he deliberately made xnh look stupid in public. GO DIRECTOR!! Seeing this made the whole boring meeting worth attending for me. :)

I just get SO tired of people making comments about xnh like, "Oh, I know he's NOT supposed to do that, but it's just xnh." No. His poor behavior needs smacked down whenever it's unacceptable. My sister is absolutely correct when she says, "Behavior that is rewarded will be repeated". Xnh continues his poor behavior because people make excuses for it, and let him get away with it. It is rewarded.

His behavior today was just SO typical. Xnh blasted in late with his usual "dramatic entrance", and interrupted everyone to get attention. Well, if xnh wants to always be the center of attention, today he certainly got it. He got to fill out that sign-in sheet while everyone stood around glaring at him because THEY wanted to go back to their jobs. Xnh is a true assclown. He's SO predictable. rofl.

Nov 30 - 12PM
empath
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mystwoman

Please share for the benefit of all the newbies here how at one point in time long long ago you thought this guy was "awesome"... funny how things change, isn't it? Congratulations to you for seeing that assclown for the freak he really is.
Dec 1 - 11AM (Reply to #6)
mystwoman
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Empath, you are absolutely

Empath, you are absolutely correct. At one point, I thought this guy was my soul mate and everything about him was wonderful. However, it's kind of hard to have a soul mate in someone that has no soul. I bought into all of his bullshit hook, line, and sinker. Xnh poured on the charm really thick at first. I truly thought he was everything I could ever want in a man, and I fell deeply in love with him. Xnh was merely mirroring me, and what I fell in love with was an illusion. Very early in the relationship, I started seeing cracks in his mask, and what I saw underneath was NOT pretty. So what did I do? Doubted myself, put huge blinders over my eyes, and ignored every red flag I saw about xnh (and were a LOT of them). Within a month of starting a relationship with xnh, he told me he was going to his daughter's eye surgery and the ex-wife would be there, too. Fine. She's the kid's mother. However, xnh lied and told me that he was staying in a separate hotel down the street from hers and he was driving his own car. The next morning he called me from the hotel room where he'd spent the night WITH HIS EX-WIFE and their two kids. He called me up all happy, happy because the four of them apparently had a jolly good time the night before swimming together and going out on the town eat at a fancy restaurant. Oh, and by the way, the daughter's surgery went fine. He acted like adding anything about her surgery was just an after thought. What xnh was all excited about was how much FUN they'd had. He just couldn't seem to figure out WHY I was so upset about any of this. At this point, I called him a "lying sack of shit" and told xnh we were finished. Then I hung up on him. The next day xnh waltzes into my office at work just like nothing ever happened. He told me that *I* was making a huge mountain out of a molehill, and that "I'd just better get used to the ex-wife being on the scene because HE has children". Well, poo-poo-padoo. A lot of people have children, but they don't sleep with their new girlfriend AND the ex-wife still. To this day, I still cannot believe that I questioned myself when he accused me of "over reacting" and I forgave him. What an idiot I was!! That S.O.B. was sleeping with both me and his ex-wife, and *I* was expected to just overlook it. No one can convince me to this day that xnh slept in the same bed with her and nothing happened, but at that time, *I* stupidly bought his line of crap. I, also, remember the stunned shock I felt one afternoon a few months after this incident where xnh went into the first rage I'd ever seen from him. He was angry at something I'd supposedly said or done. I don't even remember what, at this point. We've had so many fights during the 16 years I was with him that I can't remember them all. I was standing on the sidewalk, listening to him rave and rant at me with his face all purple. Suddenly he reached out grabbed my arm with one hand, and threatened to slug me in the face with the other one. I got in my car and left. My "magical thinking" was working here, too. I stupidly forgave him a few days later because he had some lame excuse about his being upset over work and him taking it out on me. No. Xnh was showing me his true colors. Man, did I ignore a BIG red flag with this. I simply would not let myself believe this nasty creature I was seeing was the REAL xnh. The wonderful "man" I'd fallen in love with would NEVER do that to me. However, no matter how hard I denied it, and ignored the red flags, I WAS seeing the real, disordered xnh. He is truly ugly under his mask. I wanted to see only the wonderful person had initially portrayed himself to be, and I ignored every red flag that surfaced about xnh. I, also, paid for 16 years in a relationship with xnh with my self-esteem, health, and happiness because of my cognitive dissonance. The price was way too high. Never again!!

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Dec 1 - 11AM (Reply to #7)
empath
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mystwoman, this says it all...

Mystwoman, what you wrote here says it all: "At one point, I thought this guy was my soul mate and everything about him was wonderful. However, it's kind of hard to have a soul mate in someone that has no soul. I bought into all of his bullshit hook, line, and sinker. Xnh poured on the charm really thick at first. I truly thought he was everything I could ever want in a man, and I fell deeply in love with him. Xnh was merely mirroring me, and what I fell in love with was an illusion." Thank God for this forum and that we have all had our eyes opened to this disorder. I am so happy for you that you've made it through...your posts are so inspiring! Congratulations! :-)
Nov 30 - 7AM
Hunter
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Super Freak indeed!! Hunter

Super Freak indeed!! Hunter
Nov 29 - 12PM
uk lady
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When the mask falls

It truly is spectacular. He even got to take a bow. ROFL. Dee x
Nov 29 - 12PM
Deidre40
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lmao...this is the funniest

lmao...this is the funniest thing i've read on here in a while. hahahaha the vivid detail of how you explained this. i felt like i was there! they are truly pathetic. yes, i agree, too...if no one holds them accountable, they'll continue. i held my ex accountable. i went completely nc...don't utter his name. i all but vanished from his radar screen. don't reply back to his emails, etc. according to him, he had told me when we were together, how all women 'come back' to him, asking for him back. (not holding him accountable) not me, loser.
Nov 29 - 12PM
spinning
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Myst, you had front row seats to the

FREAK SHOW! Yuck! So glad you see it for what it is. Wish you didn't have to see it at all. Your sister and my sister would get along great! One of my sister's favorite reminders to me is "With some people NICE DOESN'T WORK." Myst, I am so glad you're so done with this FREAK! You are an inspiration...and your humor is appreciated too! Love, (not) spinning. CAUSE I CLOSED THE CURTAIN ON THE FREAK SHOW FOR GOOD!

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