Stand tall when they accuse YOU of being nuts when YOU start to talk back
Stand tall when they accuse YOU of being nuts when YOU start to talk back
When I finally started fighting back, my Narc started accusing me of being "nuts" and hormonal, imagining things, not listening properly, telling lies......etc..
In my case, he told people that I was "nuts" and not to listen to anything I was saying, as because I was so deeply depressed, I didn't know what I was saying or doing.
And People believed him!!!!!!
I had to fight really hard to get rid of him.
Each time I got stronger, he would use his words again and again.
Like....deep down I still have feelings for you, but I need more time to work through things.
WTF.!!!!!!!!!!!
He had already had 6months to work things out.
Another good one was " I still love you and want to try again"...but, he was still DATING other woman!!!!
Anyway......
Yes they are very powerful with their words and the "poor little me" routine.
My exs "poor little me'' routine was perfect.
It worked on me everytime, until someone said....
"Actions speak louder than words"
For me that was a wakeup call.
I started remembering his words, and saw that he never put them into action, but before that I was still in shock and couldn't think clearly.
We should try to remember that others can see clearly, because they are not "emotionally" involved like we are.
All the things and sayings that we know, have gone out the window, because we are so stressed and confused.
So make sure you read and re read, listen and re listen to all the advice, so you can get your thoughts back to normal.
When I finally stood up and got rid of him....(shit hit the fan) and he accused ME of being "nuts"and hormonal!
He told everyone who would listen, and then would tell me THEY were the ones saying I was "nuts".
Well I now have "nuts' ,because I grew some..hahah
And yes I am hormonal....who wouldn't be after going through what we are put through?
But.......I am free and completely sane, NOW that he has gone.
So just remember, they will always get nastier when they see YOU get stronger and start to stand up for yourself and want to move on.
They HATE being the one that was REJECTED.
They want to be the one TO REJECT YOU.
I simply got blanked for
cindy
mine came to our 2nd therapy session and said I was in desperate
Boy do I hear this! I was
For me it was "Why do you
The only times we fought were
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Exactly!!