A Theory about the OW and ongoing contact
A Theory about the OW and ongoing contact
I've been thinking about why my N recently tried to contact me after 5+ weeks of NC on my part. My theory and that now I'm not on the scene, the OW isn't as exciting as when he was juggling two sources of supply that both wanted him and made demands on his time. This was the perfect set up for my N because he could guarantee himself supply no matter what. However after several weeks with me out of the picture, I"m sure it's not as titilating to have someone else on the side, and as he works with her too, I'm sure he will now begin looking for supply away from his new Home Supply (the OW). Hence his lame attempt to contact me on Valentine's day and "fish" to find out if I was still interested before going through exhausting process of finding new secondary supply. That is one of the key reasons they come back. If you have always gone back to him before (which I have, even after several months of NC), it's a good bet that he can work you over again.
Not this time, however! I really see now that I was never important as an individual to him, and there really was no love there. And when I last went back to him, he dropped the OW like a hot potato, only to reel her back when he knew i was his again. I try to have mercy and not hatred for the other woman, and hope when the time comes she finds support and a forum like this to make sense of the whole thing.
Wow those are some powerful comments
These men are something...and
Contact
It's a viscous game they play
They thrive on attention