Is there a reason why people don't reply to me?

Thank you for putting this out there. I too have felt that way many times. I've had a few good threads but there have been many with minimal response. Given my insecurities, I'll personalize the experience and it triggers my N wounds of feeling neglected and invalidated. I'm aware of my negative perceptions and I've used this experience to dispute my faulty beliefs and to work on my black/white thinking. I sometimes inflict my own wounds by all this negative self talk which perpetuates my suffering. This morning, I found your response to my post of one month ago on NC under Lisa's blog. I just now responded to your feedback. I'm finding that when I'm offline, I sometimes miss posts. I also have times when I read the posts and I just can't find it within myself to respond due to my own personal stuff. Sometimes I get really triggered by reading. It's not that I'm not grateful or irritated. I'm glad you posted this...I think we can all relate. Your comments are valued and please continue to post. Hugs

This really breaks me, the way that you say it. Ive often felt the same but never would have the guts to come out and mention it. Wow, your really honest! Sometimes I dont respond to posts if im not sure what to say, or start getting involved in alot of posts and topics at one time...I read so many things on here, my mind starts getting blurry after a while. Im sure theres all kinds of reasons it could be (when someone doesnt respond) that probably dont mean anything bad. By the way, i know i havent been on here that much--visibly anyway. (my username used to be indifference sucks) but i just wanted to say that Ive read alot of your posts responding to things, and really have gotten alot out of them! Your posts really give me what i need alot of times. Your sweet, God bless you.

U are not alone i feel the same way too. I think some people are just more familiar with others I guess. I will read and respond to all of your post!

Your thread about how NC is the best revenge is great here! You make valuable contributions. Besides, according to Greek mythology, Nemesis punished Narcissus.

Your post made me smile for several reasons. I too have thought of myself at times as a thread killer.I don't post often, but when I do I think that I wrote something insightful that may help someone,and as the post goes down the line I start questioning myself and my insights. Especially on days when I am feeling a little low in the self esteem area. Secondly I admire your vulnerability in having the courage to even ask the question. That takes some self esteem. Obviuosly your narc wasn't able to crush that!! Vulnerability is a beautful thing in the right setting and with the right people. This forum is full of such people. Lastly I thought of what a narc would do on a forum where he/she felt their posts were being ignored. They would probably write a raging new thread or tell everyone how special and unique their issues are and the rest of us less superior beings couldn't even relate. Hope I don't kill this post!:)

It may have been said already, but some of us are in different time zones, plus I generally spend most of my time on the Steps 1-3 rather than 4-6.

Hi there Nemesis I enjoy talking to u! Plse dont feel this way. Hugs

I like your posts! I like your comments! I'm trying to wean myself off of 24/7 support, so when I comment I really want to say something meaningful. Your insights are valuable and make me think. Now that I know you need some reassurance I will comment when appropriate. Hang in there!! We all need some extra strokes because our egos are so damaged.

I also read more than I post as I'm new to this forum. I love everyones posts and find your particularly helpful - especially the one you wrote about his last resort "pity." I woke up to a text this morning (It's his birthday today) that said "wish you would celebrate with me." I know it's just the last resort talking. thanks! sorry you are having a tough time.

This topic has come up over and over! We are a caring sharing group! It's also an open forum! If you feel left out please take this to a PM with the mods! Nemesis you have been here 12 weeks! It takes time to build relationships, here and on the outside! Your posts indeed add value! Honestly I don't see enough of them! I have made many friends here however, I have been here for over a year! In the future everyone please address this with the Mods! You have been through a difficult experience and emotions run wild ! Please continue to post! Hunter

Hi, I have enjoyed reading your posts and replies. I am only a month into this and , I have had a very active day today on the forum. Nemisis, if it wasn't for you and some other great gals, I would not have been able to get to where I am today after only four weeks. Do not feel that you are not recognized, because you would be so wrong, we all need you, we all need each other. It's hard when it all hurts so much, but look at how many love having you here . Big hugs.. Timtam

nemesis, now I am feeling sad because you did not notice any of my responses to you :( no reply to me from you :(( why??? did i not get liked by you? serious question.

I am an old timer on this site and i can tell you that your post about NC made me start it,I NEVER believed i could go NC on him...i wanted to stay in contact to get to hear that his life after me was going downhill...we were in a LDR so i can only hear from him about his misfortunes,,,but your post made me realize,the only way i would get lets say revenge is going NC and giving him my silence....And it works...i am feeling better,and he is feeling pretty shitty...i know that because he did contact me through email(he in THE USA ME IN HOLLAND)so now i am sticking to it....you are really making a difference in my life....i am getting me back thanks that post...so thank you...HUGHS.....

about a month ago i posted the same thing as you. i think that when we feel down we become more sensitive to everything. i also love your posts, but i read more than i post. everyone on here is wonderful and we really care about each other.