Things he said (red flags)

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#1 Mar 6 - 5PM
Emilie
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Things he said (red flags)

First off, let me just say that I have not been having a very good day today at all. I find myself slipping into the pathetic mindset of debating whether or not he is a narc.. I know in the end it doesn't matter, but it's still one of the obstacles I have to get past.

Anyway, I started thinking about some things my "narc" said to me in the past that I should have seen as being red flags:

1. Right after he came crawling back to me after a girlfriend broke up with him, he said "No one understands me except my mom" This sounded very strange to me. He was extremely popular, but when I asked him if he had any close guy friends he could talk to, he just stared at me blankly and said no.

2. He would always say he wanted to "get a reaction" out of me. He just wanted to try and piss me off. And it usually worked.

3. The most alarming one was he always used to brag about how good he was at manipulating people. I asked him once why he does it and his response was " I don't know. Ever since I was old enough to think for myself, it's just something I've been doing. I manipulate people to make them think a certain way or until I've confused them enough, and then let them be the ones to make the final decision of what happens, so no one can blame me if it turns out badly in the end." He was only 17 when he told me that.

He turns 20 on Friday, and I can't help but think that if he really is a narcissist, and he's THIS clever and manipulating already, what is he going to be like 20 years from now?

Mar 7 - 6PM
K_S
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Do NOT continue to debate

Mar 7 - 3PM
Janie53
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Red Flags

Mar 6 - 8PM
Sickofhim
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Red flags

Mar 6 - 9PM (Reply to #11)
pumpkinpie
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More red flags

Mar 6 - 7PM
Emilie
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Thank you.

Mar 6 - 7PM (Reply to #9)
leslieisback
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Emilie, If he is or isn't a

Mar 6 - 6PM
redflagswaving
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your comment

Mar 6 - 5PM
Hunter
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20 yrs from now?? Who cares..

Mar 6 - 6PM (Reply to #2)
Emilie
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Yeah I know, I know. I've

Mar 6 - 6PM (Reply to #6)
Laci423
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My xn

Mar 6 - 6PM (Reply to #3)
Janie53
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Emilie

Mar 7 - 11AM (Reply to #4)
spinning
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love this, Laci...

spinning

Mar 7 - 4PM (Reply to #5)
Laci423
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Thank you!