today was my day i guess

Thought you might get a kick out of this...or a good cry lol http://www.helium.com/items/339767-possible-health-benefits-of-crying Possible health benefits of crying by Dr. Kevin Keough Scientific research supports the accuracy of ancient folk wisdom that crying is good for our health. As far as we know, human beings are the only creatures that shed tears. Although crying is a universal human experience that appears in every culture throughout history, we understand very little about this mysterious phenomenon. Traumatic events, prolonged stress, loneliness, loss, pain, and simple daily hassles often trigger crying. Yet, most people have also cried tears of happiness, joy, and relief. How often and for what reasons people weep are influenced by many factors including gender, age, perceptions of events, societal attitudes, health, personality characteristics, and so on. Curiously, we have learned more about weeping from poetry, fiction, and movies than from medical and psychological studies. However,these scientific studies provide strong and consistent evidence that crying is linked to significant health benefits. Biomedical researchers have identified four biological mechanisms that function as catalysts influencing the amount of tears we will shed at a given time: genetic influences,dietary factors, hormone levels and circadian rhythms (we are more likely to cry if we are sleep deprived and at certain times of day). Once the tear switch is flipped a complex interplay of psychological and neurobiological processes allow tears to flow. We really know very little about the precise psychological and biological processes that initiate an episode of crying or when it will stop. However, recent biological studies offer strong clues to how and why crying is related to health benefits. Commonly, people report they feel some sense of relief after a bout of crying. There is general agreement that there is a significant increase in the number, type and amount of stress hormones released in our bodies prior to crying. Consistently, researchers find that tears contain stress hormones. This is a critical finding since we know stress hormones cause damage to virtually all bodily systems. During the last decade, stress hormones have been shown to cause serious damage to brain cells. Stress hormones have seem to target specific parts of the brain including the hippocampus, hypothalamus, and pre-frontal cortex. Unfortunately, stress hormones attack the very brain sites implicated in the perpetuation of mood disorders. As a result, stress hormones damage the exact sites capable of reducing or eliminating the release of the toxic stress hormones. Finally, extensive biomedical studies demonstrate that stress hormones negatively affect virtually every system in the body including the cardiovascular, gastrointestinal, endocrine, musculoskeletal, and immune systems. It is clear that crying is a primary way for the body to eliminate harmful stress hormones. Thus, crying is a natural and essential biological function that results in the elimination of stress hormones connected to every imaginable stress related health problem. The 21st century has started by removing any doubt about the positive health effects of crying. Is it any wonder that people so often report feeling relieved after a good cry ? From a public health perspective, it is obvious that the general public would benefit from a campaign to eliminate all stigma associated with crying awareness so everyone can benefit from the innumerable positive health effects of crying. Practitioner's of folk wisdom have routinely encouraged people to allow themselves to cry comforting the suffering soul that ' a good cry will help you feel better'.

Must be in the air!! Had a melt down today too!! I'm 47 faild marriage to a drunk after 20 years and now coming out of 2 and a half years with the N!! I want to heal, I need to heal and I want to find someone who knows how to love me!! We all deserve that!! Keep the faith, do the work it's easy to say I know and hard to do on days like this but we've suffered enough yes?? Lets all remember how beautiful we are and so deserving of happiness!! xo to all

This morning I woke up and realized that I'm turning 39 in a few months, that I've been either alone or with total assclowns all my life and that my chances of meeting someone and maybe having a family are getting slimmer by the day. A friend of mine just started internet dating and he won't even consider women older than 36 (he's 33). Last time I signed up on a dating site most guys that wrote to me were over 50 and bald... great! (Narc was young, but bald, too.. I seem to attract them!) Some days I wish I was 10 years younger and still had loads of time and opportunities to date and be in relationships and make mistakes and meet someone new etc.. Then again fuck it! The most important thing right now is to date ourselves and to learn what it feels like to be treated well, so we won't EVER tolerate abuse again. May 2012 be a peaceful and happy year for all of us! ;)

All your dreams will come true one day..........heal first and know yourself fully. After your recovery, you will know all of what you want and will settle for nothing less. And with this, will come your complete happiness. It;s all for a reason, no need to question. Just ride the wave and learn what you need to, the tools are developing, the tools needed to live a full and complete life of happiness. Stay strong, cry when needed, and keep on keeping on!

Blueworld I feel ur pain! I am having the same feelings today! I hate it! It is a horrible feeling!I hope u get to feeling better! Take care!

I know how you feel. Same thing happened to me. I wondered whether crying is actually helpful or not. I had pain all day, I walked in the house and bawled and I felt a bit better. The whole act of crying is just bizarre to me. Who invented shed water from your eyes to feel better lol. Anyway, I hope it helps you too and makes you feel better.

I so get that. I'm 45 and think all the time...I wonder if he was my last shot at this marriage thing?? We were engaged :( But then I remind myself I'd rather be alone for the rest of my life then abused by him for another day.... Cheer up! (I'm not real good at the support stuff yet, I'm just a newbie...but I try!)

I wish I could say something more inspiring then you will find someone. But you will and it will be better and worth the wait. It's okay to feel sad. You are a good person. ((hugs))