The total and complete selfishness and disregard

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#1 Feb 4 - 11AM
helldweller
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The total and complete selfishness and disregard

So, just an incredulous, disgusted bit of information.

After two days of digging out of the Blizzard of 2011 here in Chicago, during which most people in my neighborhood spent all day and evening yesterday digging through frozen snowdrifts of up to five feet to help people get their cars out, pushing cars for blocks to clear the streets, walking blocks to the store in sub zero temperatures for our elderly neighbors, and just generally looking out for one another, the narc left his house this morning after being off work for two days, got into his 4WD truck, BACKED INTO the space behind him--a space his next door neighbor(a five foot tall, one hundred pound nursing student) spent six hours digging out herself yesterday, and pulled right out and drove off.

The only person in Chicago completely affected by one of the worst snow storms in the city's history--and completely oblivous to the needs of anyone else.

Add to this: his other neighbor is a cop who snow blows the entire block and the narc's sidewalk whenever it snows AND cuts the narc's grass in the summer. Well, he and his family are in California for a funeral. Do you think the narc could go out and dig out the guy's car for him or even shovel his walk? Do you? Nope, neither he nor his brother lifted a finger to help anyone. No one. Like I said, the morning after the snow, the narc's brother went out and shoveled a little path between he and the narc's front doors. Period.

I am on the quick path to recovery now, and these nuggets of completely obsence behavior are really helping a lot.

Feb 5 - 7PM
onwithmylife
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Helldweller

Your comments said it all about the EXNARc, selfish, all about him and oblivious to everyone else.I hope he gets HIS.............
Feb 4 - 5PM
Susan32
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Speaking of storms

Listening to the radio today... and I heard that New Mexico is in a state of emergency (Fireflie, stay warm, light a fire and drink lots of hot tea&soup!) It's so cold that there have been massive power outages and blackouts. New Mexico is blanketed in snow and cold... just like Chicago. Yeah, I'm glad I'm not stuck with the ex-Psych professor with the lights out.
Feb 4 - 11AM
spinning
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HD, It's All About

Him...disgusting, isn't it???!!! Every time I REALLY needed help with something (which wasn't often as I am very self-sufficient) I'd GET THE EXACT OPPOSITE of what I asked for. Or he conveniently wouldn't return my phone calls until after the crisis had passed. Sick, pathetic wimps. I wish I wasn't still somewhat preoccupied with the disordered one in any way shape or form. Poison. Truly. They do not deserve to share the same air space with normal, compassionate people! We had a blizzard too. I was unable to get out of my driveway on Weds. and had to do a lot of hard work shoveling out (my excellent neighbor plowed out the driveway) and getting to my animals, etc. I had a hard time but I did it. I had a harder time mentally because I felt so ALONE. For a minute I actually THOUGHT I MISSED HIM. Then, like you are doing now, I REMEMBERED THE TRUTH of who (or should I say what) he is. There is NOTHING to miss except chaos, high drama, a limp pin dick, weird behavior, rages, gaslighting and complete and total confusion. That's the TRUTH. Sincerely (a somewhat slower if not much hotter) spin cycle (spinning)

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Feb 5 - 7PM (Reply to #7)
onwithmylife
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spinning

You are funny, and your comments remind me of my EXN, I did so much for him and once i asked him if he could drive me to the dentist,if i got to his place, and he said how could you ask me for such a thing, i am packing to move, like he could not take an houror two to out of his precious time, he was retired, to help me out when i was so sick to drive,asshole........
Feb 4 - 5PM (Reply to #6)
mystwoman
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Spinning, that's so true for

Spinning, that's so true for me too. When I feel alone now, all I have to do is remember how alone I constantly felt the entire time I was with xnh. I've always been alone, even in my relationship with him. However, NOW I'm alone without xnh's constant "chaos, high drama, a limp pin dick, weird behavior, rages, gaslighting and complete and total confusion". If I needed help, xnh was always "somewhere else" or "unavailable" or "too busy" (until AFTER the crisis, of course...then he would waltz in like the King Of The Universe telling me how "I should have waited for him"). I did wait for him ONCE when I needed major help with a house project. It took him TWO YEARS to put four windows into the front of the house (a day's worth of work). This was after he VOLUNTEERED, and insisted that he wanted to "help". Initially, I was going to have the glass company do the job. Since then, I pay someone for stuff like that, or do it myself. The price is DEFINITELY cheaper than involving xnh. If I did manage to corner him long enough to ask for his help, like you, I usually got the exact opposite of what I asked for, and plenty of whining and stalling while he did it. Thus, I didn't depend on him for anything, and would MUCH rather figure things out for myself. Xnh always wanted me to be orbiting around HIM and whatever he wanted. However, he was NOT there for me. Now I'm much better off alone and without him. :) ______________________________________________________ God sometimes removes a person from your life for your protection. Don't run after them.

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Feb 4 - 11AM (Reply to #5)
strongerthanever
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Not there when you need them

Not there when you need them for sure! In 2007 when I was moving, to be closer to the Narc and his son, bought a home that would accomdate the kids and us, 1 week prior to the move, he "pulled a back muscle". And then 2 days prior, said he could not help. 2 of my friends, who one pegged him after meeting him 1 time, and another who yes is weird and exNarc didn't like, were helping. And then when he called on moving day to see how it was going, I suggested he come by with at least pizza for us...just be there for me. Nope. He raged. Then did not come to the house for a week. Pretty much showed me how he really felt about us. and in the past, did not go to his "good friend" (who he strung along for yrs and used for sex and a filler) wedding. I never knew about that until I became good friends with this girl. Of course he would never admit that he didn't even send a card or a gift, or go to the wedding even though he said he would be there. It is like he knows he's an ass but doesnt care. He knows what he will look like if the truth was told, but rather fool everyone. It is truly mental.
Feb 4 - 11AM
helldweller
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I meant

completely UNAFFECTED by the storm.
Feb 4 - 11AM (Reply to #2)
Hunter
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Liars, users & Losers, how

Liars, users & Losers, how selfish. I still wonder how we get trapped? They really do a number on us. Just goes to show how important NC is. It allows us to view this from the outside looking in. Cheers to a Narc free weekend. Go Greenbay! ( I guess Ill cheer for them since they are close to home)
Feb 4 - 11AM (Reply to #3)
spinning
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Cheers, Ideal...

I like your "spin" on a NARC FREE WEEKEND. Right ON!!! Love ya! sincerely (slow burning) spin cycle (spinning)

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