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#1 Jan 2 - 1PM
momoya
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A weak moment

In a curious moment ..I found myself peeking on FB to see. He had changed his profile picture from a photo of his car, to a photo of him and his girls. I looked him over again searching for clues in his features that I might of missed. I could see nothing there that gives away the true person he is.

I survived the new year but still thought of him as it has been a hard year and I am happy to see it end and look forward to having a better 2011! best to all of you!!

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Jan 2 - 2PM
Briseis
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What better chick magnet

What better chick magnet than a pic of him and his kids :( Definitely beware of how you feel over the next few hours or days. Giving in to these weak moments can cause an upsurge in the obsessive thoughts, whether they are about missing him or hating yourself for falling for him, or whatever, literally. When I discovered my exN on facebook I blocked him, after about five minutes. I looked at his friends, his wall, and then at the twenty or so pictures of his fugly mug (the one I loved so much at one time). Pretty much for the same reasons. I'm three and a half years out, not prone to feeling badly or obsessiveness anymore. But I had to look too. Just a big eared Iowa corn fed doofus. Give yourself the gift of blocking his profile, during this very vulnerable time, you just never know how it's gonna effect you, yanno? It's never good, not in my experience or that of others :(
Jan 2 - 4PM (Reply to #6)
Deidre99
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Briseis

yes...agree! mine would have pics of him and one of his daughters...which is fine. whatever. that's his choice. he is a single dad. but...still. and he would post funny cute things she'd say...in his daily updates. she definitely is cuter than he ever was. lol
Jan 2 - 3PM (Reply to #5)
momoya
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Thanks- i had already

Thanks- i had already blocked him. I was at a friends house and she was online, and that is how I peeked. He is still with me daily in my head. I am happy for the periods of time I forget him. He is still an enigma. I still working it out. momoya

momoya

Jan 2 - 3PM (Reply to #2)
momoya
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Thanks- i had already

Thanks- i had already blocked him. I was at a friends house and she was online, and that is how I peeked. He is still with me daily in my head. I am happy for the periods of time I forget him. He is still an enigma. I still working it out. momoya

momoya

Jan 9 - 10PM (Reply to #3)
therose
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I know that feeling...

Mine I unfriended but even though I never go to his profile, we have mutual friends czu we know each other from high school and I have a whole gaggle of them on fb. When he dumped me, I told him to change his pic, and he did to one of him and his daughter he actually took for me as it was a place near my home (him and I actually lived just a street away from each other all those years and didn't know.lol) so it's hard to see that, though he did take it for me and I did love them both. I have not taken one look at his profile since he dumped me three onths ago, but one mutual friend he has been commenting so much on, I had to hide her feed. And now I am off of fb for my eyes and just to detox from there.It wason fb we met again and got together and there's just too much rama on there anyway, not een with him but other things and the wya I might write a happy sttus and people weird out. I just think I have better ways to spend my time and be positive. I know how you feel though, it is always there, but I think even though I can see his profile cuzunlike mine which I changed, anyone can seee it, it's just again I think of his anger if Idid look. I remember the anger and that motiviates me to not do anythhing, kinda like if someone is about to hit you, you flinch or go away, I just think of it that way. It's pain to look so I am avoiding pain.lol But we are all here for you. trust me, we are all in that boat with you. You are strong! M

"do you believe that dreams come true? hold on to your dreams." - Madonna

Jan 9 - 10PM (Reply to #4)
therose
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One thing..

I did find strange is he does still have himself tagged in all our photos together in my albums, I would think if he has had enough of me and is trolling for someone else, he woudl not want some of those pics we had showing up on his page. Let's just say there are some kissy shots on there! LOL But other than having those pics up,a s I choronicle everything photographcally, always have, being very into sharing my journey of life (I have my own website even) I don't really go back to the profile or all the voice messages when he would talk to me on the webcam, those were so sweet and so wonderful and caring, but again, not sure if any of it was real, and so I have not listened. Watched some of our vids but not much, I think I manage again because of his anger and rage, nothing would brine me back there cuz I'm scared of him, that's helping me most of all. M

"do you believe that dreams come true? hold on to your dreams." - Madonna