"I'm not doing this with you anymore."
I tried for a long time to pinpoint exactly what he wasn't going to do anymore, and I guess it was that he was not going to be expected to give anything--including information about HIS plans for MY future--in exchange for sex.
what is your problem?
you're too sensitive
you are such a child..
I'm not your puppet
You can't make me love you.
they're just jealous of me
just to name a few of his loving comments.
Oh, God. You reminded me.
"HONEY! RELAX!"
This was the stock answer to every single question about every single thing, whether, "Can we go to dinner this week?" "Can you come to my daughter's birthday party?" or "I'm preganant and you haven't answered my calls for three weeks."
"I never said that."
"They are just women. I LOVE you."
"You can't get along with anyone."
"You make everyone uncomfortable."
"You don't know how to act in public."
"You hate everyone."
"You call everyone names."
"You hate my family."
"You hate my friends."
"You are too busy for me."
"You don't understand me."
"You don't love me."
Jesus Christ. No wonder I'm so messed up.
"its no wonder im so messed up " yep ... im still realing from "you cant make me love you " after he had been telling me night and day how much he loved me .... arrrggggg
but I will anyway. During the first couple of years in the relationship, he used to grab my head and pull it downward toward his crotch and say in an exagerated german accent:
"Gobble the noggin?"
Of course, it was a big joke to him - WTF! He did it a few times until I got right in his face and told him that if he ever did that again, I would hit him - I was furious and I meant it! I abhor violence of any kind (even in movies) and he got the message.
He pouted as if I had been mean to him and had overreacted to his little joke. I never got an apology and he never did it again.
The worst part of all? I stayed with him for another several years. Hindsight is 20/20 vision.
b/c with had a freindship of chilling and talking, he said this is more intimate than sex, well why did you ruin it n by starting to ask for sex, just a thought it was a very intense freindship, so maybe in a way he was right, it got to intimate, we used to talk for hours and hours, 24/7 for nearly 2 years[ when did he get time to do all the things and woman i found out about after] no wonder he was always crying he must have been exhausted juggling us all. but yeah maybe it did become to intimate for him, so he wanted to bring it down to sex, so he could move on, or could it be that i met a nother male freind that i liked. yep thats what it was. i wont kid my self any diffrent, bottom line, once he had a rival, the fireworks began.
but I will anyway. During the first couple of years in the relationship, he used to grab my head and pull it downward toward his crotch and say in an exagerated german accent:
"Gobble the noggin?"
Of course, it was a big joke to him - WTF! He did it a few times until I got right in his face and told him that if he ever did that again, I would hit him - I was furious and I meant it! I abhor violence of any kind (even in movies) and he got the message.
He pouted as if I had been mean to him and had overreacted to his little joke. I never got an apology and he never did it again.
The worst part of all? I stayed with him for another several years. Hindsight is 20/20 vision.
Last weekend "himself" went on and on about how is life could be made into a block buster movie and he would be famous!!! Of course, after being an ass he would always proclaim "I am a good guy!". A-hole....
and guess what, puplic doesn't like it. No kidding, he influenced the show too much (produced it as well), he diecided with who he wanted to work (all exgirlfirends of course), and the pulic reaction was kind of (he has DID in the show), that it is very unrealistic that all those people stay so "tolerant" about his "mood swings". Oh he cheated, well that wasnt really him, oh he behaves like a jerk - well that wasnt really him.
How funny is that? I see now that he even starts to act the way he really is in interviews. Guess his little new fame is too much supply for his narcissistic brain.
Well karma comes back in ways we never expect it.
I'm a nice guy (this was after the D&D... isn't timing EVERYTHING?)
Let's not talk about your feelings
I'm sure I'm right, I know I'm right, I'm right (during the D&D)
Do you hate men? (because I disagreed with him)
I HATE GAYS, they're so weird (yet the ex-Psych professor had major gaydar)
I wish I could sue you
Don't make fun of me (he had mocked me behind my back, and cruelly)
Susan
The one about being right. ... had that EXACT sequence of words. This is weird! When he was saying I had mocked him, but I hadn't! I would not have dared. But it was like he was trying to convince himself and he would not look at me while saying it x
'I wish i could sue you'
ExN writes ' I will look at MY judge's order'- everytime he feels threatned of being unmasked and to make him look/feel better about himself-yukkkkk
The ex-Psych professor and I argued about money despite the fact we weren't dating! We didn't even get physically intimate, yet he liked arguing about $$$$. He'd be concerned about the money I was making with my summer jobs... yet he wasn't benefitting from them :) My Taco Bell job in Oregon didn't get him a free lunch.
I got his lecture about Wittgenstein/Augustine popular, so he ended up making the Infamous 14 Copies. Of course, he gave them out for free... and after he did that, he accused me of "stealing." I was like "you gave the copies to students, now you'll be asking for money?" I told him it would look.... pathetic. He spat, "I wish I could sue you!" then we argued about price points for the lectures... well, see why I didn't marry this guy, let alone bed him??? He tried to frighten me with the whole "I'll get my lawyer/I wish I could sue you" and I told him that it would LOOK BAD for him to be suing an unemployed college student... that he'd look like a total moron.
He was mad because I had found one of his essays online and read it gratis. Ever since, it costs $$$ to read one of his articles. He REALLY doesn't want his students to read what he writes. Paranoia can do that to ya.
More money arguments-
1)I was volunteering at elementary school FOR FREE. I did it anyhow.
2)Oh, I got into a teacher education program. It didn't pay. But I did it anyhow.
He'd complain about not being paid enough, comparing himself to a prostitute,and he'd act "worried" about my employment situation/salary. We weren't even LIVING TOGETHER.
If we were sharing rent/utilities/car payments... then he would be reasonable. But really. Eyeroll :0
On the "I never said that"
And: "I know I am not a good person"
"Be who you are, and say what you feel; for those who mind don't matter, and those that matter don't mind." - Dr. Seuss
"Be who you are, and say what you feel; for those who mind don't matter, and those that matter don't mind." - Dr. Seuss
Well I always got the "I do do this and that"
That has always been a sign for me that the exact opposite is indeed the case.
"I do care about you"
"I do love you"
"I do miss you"
"I do want to see you again"
"I do think of you"
and the best:
I'll call you soon.
I need to think about it.
I might do this and that (might maybe eventually).
true words spoken by him:
You are too good for me.
You shouldn't be so nice to me.
You should send me to hell.
I make everyone crazy, you deserve better.
And my absolute hate message numbero uno:
x
xx
xxx
or "blahblahblah" and "xc" at the end, which always ment something like "end of disussion".
.... that's just reminded me of another one !
"(HIS NAME) ... should come with a health warning. A mental health warning !!! "
Well that's ONE thing he didn't lie about :o) LOL x
If there's one thing I hate
things they say
what is your problem? you're
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Never forget
"I never said that." "They
"its no wonder im so messed
pronouns
embarrassed to post this
Believe in yourself!
Terri
Gobble the noggin?????
almostlydia
sayings
embarrassed to post this
Believe in yourself!
Terri
things they say
Things they say
A block Buster movie about HIMSELF!
mine has a tv show about himself
Some more "winners"
Being right
reminds me
That lawsuit and the court of public opinion
two more
I don't want to be the booby
Peace. J
Ditto
"Be who you are, and say what you feel; for those who mind don't matter, and those that matter don't mind." - Dr. Seuss
phrases
I love that one
Mine said everyone one of
Oooh oooh oooh !
Towards the end...