What did you do with the stuff?

Most of it, I gave away, sold in garage sales, or donated. If it reminded me of xnh, I got it out of my life. I had a few gifts that xnh had "given" me that I couldn't bear to part with completely. I collect anything to do with dragons. Xnh had given me a dragon chess set, a dragon light, and a few dragon statues that I wanted to keep in my collection. I decided, "Piss on him", I'm reclaiming these as completely MINE now". The way I see it, I paid a big price for these items by having to live with xnh and his PDI. I lived with 16 years of Hell because of xnh and his hideous P daughter. IMO, Keeping a few dragons is very small compensation for the large bites that he took out of soul. These few dragons don't remind me of him specifically, mostly because xnh was horrible at picking out gifts. After getting many "romantic" gifts, such as exhaust pipe tips for my car because xnh liked them or RC cars that xnh wanted, I started just telling him, "Here. THIS is what I want for my birthday, Christmas, etc. If I don't tell you what I'd like, DON'T buy it." So most of the dragon stuff that xnh gave me as gifts, *I* had picked out for myself to begin with. Essentially these were gifts from me to me that xnh sometimes actually paid for, provided he had "remembered" to bring his wallet with him when I picked it out. Sometimes, if I found something online, he would conveniently "forget" that HE was actually supposed to be getting ME a gift using his own paycheck. Thus, I picked it out, sometimes paid for it, and xnh told everyone that "he" got it for me. lol. As for the photos, I separated out the ones of xnh and his children, and I gave the majority of them to him (stuffed into a box of his underpants that he took when he move out). I put the digital photos online at a site that he could access for download (and I let him know how to get into the account). I started out the very first upload with our wedding photos. Yes, it was my way of being caustic to xnh. I thought it was appropriate for him to get immediately smacked in the face with reminders of the marriage that he'd destroyed with both his PDI and his inability to keep his pecker in his pants. I don't know that he ever comprehended my message, but it certainly made ME feel better to get in a "cheap shot" at him. After several months, I deleted the account. If xnh didn't download the photos, oh well. Like the old saying goes, "Tough titty said the kitty when the milk went dry." The photos are now backed up, and I've removed them from my hard drive so I don't have to see them any longer. The hard copy photos that I kept are boxed up, and are in storage. I have to admit that I did burn some photos of xnh, just because it gave ME some satisfaction watching his little evil bald head, and deceitful eyes going up in flames. rofl.

somewhat of a problem for me so I've put it on the back burner. The disordered one I was involved with for six years changed his phone number and disappeared while my parent was dying because I was too tired to have sex with him when I got home from my parents house. I had already been withdrawing supply, so I shouldn't have been surprised at the utter cruelty of this reality. SIX YEARS and that's how he leaves it! This was in November. He D & D'd me via text messages (six of them in a row) and vanished. He left his crap (clothes, toothbrush, shoes, etc.) at my house. I gathered it up and put it in a bag outdoors, where it has sat through rain, snow, leaves falling and more rain. Some of the books are out there, too. I burned the photos and hid the notes and other writings and communications. I am not ready to deal with that yet. I am glad you started this thread as at one time I was very concerned about the stuff. Thinking I was going to ship it to an address or two I know of where it would really cause him some problems. I don't think of that so much anymore because I do not want to invite anything to do with him into my life any longer. I don't want to prompt any contact from him and I DO NOT WANT HIM TO EVEN REMOTELY THINK I SPEND ONE MINUTE THINKING ABOUT IT. Just writing all this has helped. I know I'm getting closer to chucking it in the trash, but just haven't been able to make that step yet. In the meantime, all his stuff is rotting...just like him. Big hugs and good vibes to you broken, and to all the members of this excellent community. sincerely (believe I'm stopping) spinning (again!!)

some things that I could use and either gave away or donated to places the other stuff, kept some old letter but put them away, they are interesting to reread when you know what you know NOW

i posted everything back to him, i didnt want anything he had given me, also thelast time he was in my home,2years ago the next day i got proffesional cleaners in to clean my home, then had it decorated, got rid of even the cup, crockery and cutlery he had used, i dumped him a few months later..GOOD RIDDANCE TO BAD RUBBISH.

I threw most in the trash....there is one wall hanging candle-abra thing that I still have stuffed behind a chair in my room.....but it's only still there because your post now just reminded me. It's going to the Salvation Army tomorrow:) if you need to hang on to certain things from him, do it....just make sure they are stored out of sight I guess. Honestly though, if I was you, I'd put the rice necklace in a batch of vegetable soup and put the card on the bottom of my cat's litter box to piss on.