What is a healthy/normal breakup?

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#1 Nov 29 - 8AM
LightAtTheEndOf...
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What is a healthy/normal breakup?

Hi All,

I ask this with genuine interest.

Most of us here had a Narc who left us abruptly. Some with no warning, others with warning. For some we had been cherished until the day they disappeared, for others the devaluation had already set in.

I believe I've possibly come across two narcs in my life before my last.

I was mulling this over today for the healthy breakups, they detached with love. By this i mean, it was very clear the relationship had to end. We were both upset and missed each other. We tried to be civil. If one was upset we would hear each other out but maintain the boundaries that the relationship had ended. I still speak to those "healthy" partners today as friends. We have moved on their is no animosity.

With my disordered partners i noticed it was sudden. I was ignored, erased. there was a devaluation or it was sudden as the final discard. They usually resumed a relationship with somebody straight afterward. Ultimately i was trashed like a piece of dirt.

Any input or thoughts on this would be appreciated.

We so often look at what a healthy relationship is, but today on my mind was "What is a healthy/normal break - up?"

xxx

Nov 29 - 9AM
Deidre99
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I think you describe it

Nov 29 - 11AM (Reply to #6)
terri
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I think there is an addition

Believe in yourself!
Terri

Nov 29 - 11AM (Reply to #7)
LightAtTheEndOf...
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Hey Terri,

Nov 29 - 9AM (Reply to #3)
LightAtTheEndOf...
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Oh Deidre i am so sorry to

Nov 29 - 9AM (Reply to #4)
Deidre99
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Ugh, I'm so sorry for you, as

Nov 29 - 9AM (Reply to #5)
LightAtTheEndOf...
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Narcs really are a trip aren't they? lol

Nov 29 - 9AM (Reply to #2)
Froglegs
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Agreed.