What next

Hi Ladies

I know I have recently joined and shared some of my story, and I also know that you don't have crystal balls....BUT....

It is now 13 days of NC, today I am just struggling. After a nasty visit from Narc on 4 January to tell me that he is leaving town on 26 January to live permanantly with OW and her 2 children, and that he would be changing his 'secret phone' number (which he has for his supply of OW) and he didn;t give me the new number. This doesn't bother me as I am on strict NC rules set by my Solicitor.

The thing is, he is quiet. he hasn't said he wants to say 'Goodbye' to our daughter, he hasn't asked me to have any of his stuff ie: his cat (yep, he asked a couple of months back), his big bag of photos of ALL of our times together.....NOTHING!!!

Does his silence indicate that he is actually finally going to leave me alone, leave town and never be seen again, despite us having a daughter....

Or does this mean that something is going to happen?? I can't quite work out if this is still part of his games for me to run and beg him to stay, swear undying love and challenge his leaving...........I can't work out what is happening other than my life is very quiet.

You are going to tell me off for this one, but I do know that he is actively using his sex/date sites, like every day...........(I look to prove to myself that he will always cheat, I will get over this bit last when I find something else to do)...............

Its always a case that they tell us one thing, yet still carry on with the same old crap, just a different victim every time. I told him when I last saw him that he will always cheat, which he didn't like me saying so.....he doesn't like being 'unmasked' with anything he does, despite the fact that we are no longer together, why that is, I can't seem to understand either.

Jumbled thoughts today, when I shouldn't be thinking, but I do think becuase I feel like I'm still not 'safe' or 'free' from him and that something will happen.......

Any advice would be appreciated please