Whats the craziest thing your N has ever said?

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#1 Jan 21 - 3PM
ichooselife
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Whats the craziest thing your N has ever said?

There are alot of words to choose from, I know,but I was thinking of this one conversation I had with him one day...

We were on the bus and he was being his usual stubborn self. I remember feeling really angry and irritated with him, but was doing my best to not show it. I started wondering to myself "Is this the kind of behavior that prompted his ex to turn psyco on him?" Don't get me wrong, I don't hit people and thats not my way but is how I felt toward him sometimes.

So I said, "Babe can I ask you something? Im just curious...you know when you told me before that one of your ex's used to beat you over the head with frying pans? Why did she do it?"
He said "Oh, well I knew how to set her off with my mouth."
I said "Why would you do that?" He says "because she used to play mind games on me."
"What kind of mind games?" i said. He goes "Like one time she told me she had been sexually abused by her step father." Silence. I waited for him to explain, and it was a wierd moment. We were at the back door of the bus, i was just a few inches from his face, starring at him and waiting for an explanation...well guess what: that wouldve been all that he said if i didnt question him further.
I started to remember things i had told him in the past about certain kinds of abuse too, and thinking "So he must think that i too am "messing with him?"

I said "How is that messing with your mind? What do you mean?" Then he said because its a lie.
First of all, he wasnt going to say that until i pushed him. Second, how could he say its a lie when he could never know that?

At that moment, i realized that he is in a totally different world than me. I started to realize how sick his thinking is....

Jan 25 - 2PM
Phoenix72
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OOOHHH I got it!!

After he physically drug me across his kitchen floor and set me outside his door, he text me as I was driving home (literally 4 min after the incident) and said "Please don't act like that. Come back!" And that is verbatim!!!
Jan 23 - 9PM
Run4it
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Ummmmm....so many ....:)

***Did you notice those (stretch) marks on me? Those are from my underwear when I was a little boy**** ****(crying...) I feel like I am a Jekyl and Hyde***** ****Did I tell you about seeing dead people sometimes?***** **** So and so (his best friend) told me that if running with her(known trouble making girl) was a problem for our relationship, then I should decide. I choose our relationship. .......pause..... But then I think about the codependency list and WHY I would do that and I am really not attracted to her or feel threatened by her at all although she did fist bump me after a run and I felt that was inappropriate touch. I don't even do that with my guy friends!"******** (he ran with her 2 days later....lol)
Jan 25 - 10AM (Reply to #35)
Run4it
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This is good therapy for me....:)

Another one of his gems.... "The acupuncturist told me I must have been a horse in a previous life. That is why I can run like I do" Yeah, a HORSES ASS!!!!!
Jan 25 - 12PM (Reply to #39)
Used
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LIKE THE WIND YOU MEAN NARC

LIKE THE WIND YOU MEAN NARC ....AT THE FIRST SIGN OF TROUBLE....
Jan 25 - 12PM (Reply to #38)
Alissa
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LOL!!

LOL!!
Jan 25 - 11AM (Reply to #37)
Lookonthesunnyside
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LOL

Hahahaha That is too much
Jan 25 - 10AM (Reply to #36)
IncognitoBurrito
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lol

lol
Jan 23 - 1PM
oceangirl
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Go on Oprah

When I told the N about how a friend's friend went on Oprah's show "How to Get your Sexy Back", mine said, "oh, yeah, you should go on the show". My answer to him now - silence.
Jan 23 - 11AM
Lookonthesunnyside
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OOH NO! GOT IT! My ex

OOH NO! GOT IT! My ex "confessed" to making out with his roommate, MONTHS after the fact (then denied it and said she was crazy and had made it up, and that I was believing HER over HIM). Psycho. Anyways! After we broke up we were arguing on the phone and I was basically saying that he had treated me badly and his reply was...in all seriousness.... "Its not like I was out fucking other chicks all the time" !!! Like, slow clap people, we have just found the best boyfriend in the world. He wasnt out fucking other chicks all the time. And when I said "ALL the time?" He jokingly said "ya, just sometimes" And then said he was "obviously" joking. And as if this is the standard that we should hold our men to. This is when the NC started. Obviously!
Jan 23 - 9AM
Lookonthesunnyside
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I notice that two posters

I notice that two posters here refer to their exes using the term "bunny boiler", I had never heard of this before?? Crazy things my ex said: (Ive posted a couple of these before) After I dumped his ass he textd me "you're an amazing person, and so am I" pffftt He said that if we ever had kids he would not change one diaper, and I think he was serious. He would make jokes about being a sociopath. He said he wouldnt date me if I didnt have a nice ass, because he takes care of himself and "deserves" someone who does the same. He said that if he was ever going to kill someone he would plan it out perfectly over a couple of years to make sure that he would never be caught. Who says this!?!? He said he never forgets someone who screws him over. (Bitter egomaniac)
Jan 23 - 6PM (Reply to #31)
Night Owl
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Bunny Boiler

"Bunny Boiler" comes from the movie Fatal Attraction (starring Glenn Close & Michael Douglas). *spoiler alert* - in the movie the woman who has an affair with the married guy becomes obsessed with him and ends up boiling his daughter's pet bunny in some kind of sick revenge/need for attention.
Jan 23 - 9AM
onwithmylife
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funny one

"It is too exhausting trying to have a relationship with you"Translation, he had already moved to another state and was tired of keeping the false mask up.........
Jan 23 - 8AM
ordinarycourage
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I do.

Yep, that has to be it!
Jan 23 - 8AM (Reply to #28)
IncognitoBurrito
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ooh!

Ouch! Yep, that has to take the cake.
Jan 22 - 8PM
NessMIA
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A FEW GEMS

"You take away my energy, that's why I have to step away from you." "You are actually pretty now, when I met you, you were just cute."
Jan 23 - 1AM (Reply to #26)
Belle de jour
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ahahahahahaha ok, the second

ahahahahahaha ok, the second one was his exact words to me when we started dating (we were friends before)
Jan 22 - 7PM
Redhead
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All women secretly hate each other

is one of his craziest statements. He said that all women are jealous of each other & secretly hate each other. I challenged that statement with the fact that I love my women friends. I'm not jealous of them....I want only the best for them. What he left out is that he triangulates & pits women against each other. What I failed to tell him is that most of my friends secretly hate him.
Jan 22 - 7PM (Reply to #24)
ichooselife
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"All women secretly hate each other"

LOL! What a sick mind, oh boy! Yeah I guess he would like to believe that. For some reason this reminds me of a neighbor N I used to have, who lived across the hall from me. The resident mngr had complained to him and gave him a warning that his music was too loud, and he says to me "You KNOW what her real problem is?" I say "What?" "She wants me, and can't have me." I told her about it, and after her moment of shock, we both laughed so hard , I thought we'd never stop!
Jan 22 - 3PM
Night Owl
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The 3 that upset me

The 3 that upset me most: "All you women are alike". "I wouldn't be surprised if you are cheating on me". "Uh oh, I hope you're not some psycho bunny boiler". (When we first started dating I told him I thought about him all the time and that was his reply...ACK! I should have known he was trouble right there.)
Jan 22 - 2PM
prettypeeved
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I think the craziest bit for

I think the craziest bit for me was him repeatedly telling me that my partner and I weren't suited to each other and that it would help my confusion if I had sex with him...and then when I cracked and finally decided to have sex with him he refused, then later went off and abandoned me and I was told it was clear from all our conversations that I loved my partner very much and we belonged together. I mean, WHAT? It was just surreal, like he had changed to be a totally different person.
Jan 23 - 7AM (Reply to #21)
IncognitoBurrito
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The refusal

It's a mindf*$%, isn't it? My exN spent years hogging my time and attention. Years of putting ideas in my head, setting up situations to test me, and manipulating me into believing we were just friends, and it would all be okay. Because he wasn't going anywhere. I never left my spouse, but I certainly entertained the idea, with N's relentless persistence, and that was enough for N. Once he realized he *could* come between us, he was satisfied. That's all N's need sometimes. Just to know they can. You know, because they don't actually care about you. They're all too happy to steal your heart and soul, from the sidelines, to watch you squirm. Like reality tv, and when you press for something real- something to make it all make sense, to make it worth the wait, and all the craziness inbetween. Well, then the fantasy disappears along with the N.
Jan 22 - 12PM
Victim-no-more
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After he met ow and discarded

After he met ow and discarded me the first time....got no communication from him or responses when I was begging for acknowledgment......after a few months they broke up,i went back, after we had sex I said "don't ever leave me again". He said "i never left." Really? Was I delusional? Then he went right back to her again.
Jan 23 - 7AM (Reply to #19)
IncognitoBurrito
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Yeah

They groom us, and love bomb us SO much in the beginning. When the d&d starts, we're still expecting the honeymoon phase. exN also said he,"Never went anywhere." After dropping off for a month at a time, during the d&d. I was hurt, dejected, confused. Then he'd start sending the random email to let me know he was "Still around." Aww, isn't that comforting? How fucking thoughtful! Thanks for the notification, asshole. (Followed by him pissing off for another few weeks.) Whatever, let the N just stay gone.
Jan 22 - 4AM
Emptyheart
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confusing projection

One of mine was when we were being physical one day, I had been feeling something was 'off' for while. I said "tell me whats wrong, its hurting me to know there is something bothering you" he answered "what would be the worst thing I could do to hurt you?" I said "If I ever thought you were intimate with someone else as well as me, we are both in this together, both with the same risks" His answer was "You aren't one of those bunny boilers are you?, I've had a few of those in the past, one of them was a total head case" He actually smiled at me and managed to keep an erection that day,,,,and at the end of it,shouted half of another woman's name out,,,,,and said,"now that was fantastic" It wasnt until a few weeks later, when I heard them at it that I thought back to that day and reallised it was her he was thinking of, it was her name he was about to shout out. Cruel bastard!!!!!!! And.... When I asked, why are you so obsessive with me in every way, but you aren't asking to see me? His answer was It would be lovely to spend a few hours with you, one of those rare times when YOU aren't busy with work, housework and other things! I never gave him an excuse not to see him all the time we were together! Both times I just sat there dumb and numb, I knew I should answer but there would be no point. I STILL wanted to believe he was just a bit different from anyone else and din't know how to express his feelings. I have kept replaying all these cruel things in my head , I have to to help me realise why I must not get involved with him again.
Jan 22 - 12AM
Belle de jour
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After I told him I would

After I told him I would never want to be with someone so messed up like him again, he said "I understand you are upset but it's not my fault you didn't manage to become part of my world". So delusional...
Jan 21 - 9PM
janemarie
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Mine used to cut down trees

Mine used to cut down trees as a side job on Saturdays...he told me..."Dont you ever cheat on me because I can easily dispose of your body...I have access to a chipper!" Charming...isnt he?
Jan 22 - 9AM (Reply to #15)
IncognitoBurrito
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I don't know

I mean, that's just love, right? Oh boy...
Jan 21 - 10PM (Reply to #14)
abreva
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OMG

That is so creepy. When the EXNH-psychopath started talking about my death on a regular basis I knew it was time to go.
Jan 21 - 8PM
peaches
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just one of the crazy things

A couple days after raging at me he told me he couldn't be with someone who let their anger get out of control. I said, "that was you that didn't control your anger". He said, "OMG, I can't believe you." Translation: you are about to pull my mask off and I need to get away from you before do.
Jan 21 - 7PM
alicepaul
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Warning--Graphic

"I just f**ked the s**t out of you." He says to me on his way home after being with me for the first time. Um, not really. More like he masterbated with my body. If I hadn't put a lot of effort and feeling into it, it would have been much worse. This is after he spent about two months telling me on a daily basis how much he's wanted me for many years, how he was going to "destroy" my bed with his passion for me, and how big he was. All lies. I was actually kind of in shock at how he didn't live up to any of his bragging. Not that I even asked or cared about any of that, but I told him it was great so that I wouldn't hurt his feelings. Little did I know he didn't have any.