When 'friends' start to see the true colors of the narc
When 'friends' start to see the true colors of the narc
I’m in such a good place these days, although, there are minor moments, when my memory fleets back to all the chaos and sadness that the narc brought into my life. But, I’ve cut off contact with most of our mutual friends, and don’t visit that website we once belonged to, together. I also don’t view the website ‘he’ and his minions have created. (although I did briefly lurk a few days ago, and it’s nothing but negativity disguised as a website to help people…okay. Lol) Anyways, one of our mutual friends, who I’m growing distant from, reaches out to me yesterday, and says that ‘’you were right, Dee.’’ I said ‘’abut what?’’ He said….’’put it this way. I don’t fit in with (fill in narc’s name) and all those people.’’ I said…’’what do you mean?’’ He went on to tell me. Sounds like he finally sees the narc and those he attracts, as the mean spirited folk they are. I didn’t gloat. But, I didn’t feel a sense of comfort in knowing, I’m not crazy. Narcs eventually do taint whoever they get close to. I told him a while back…be careful who you align yourself with. (insert narc’s name) is not your friend…and you’re going to follow him right off a cliff, if you’re not careful. He told me (the friend) that he didn’t like who he was becoming, hanging around ‘’them.’’ (narc + minions) I guess he came to the conclusion, that hanging around narcs and their minions, causes one to become like a narc. He said…’’how I was behaving was totally different, and I didn’t like how I started talking to my wife and kids.’’ Good man to realize this! I remember when I used the ‘f’ word constantly, and that was all a result from dating the narc. Not that using it is bad, it’s not. But, I was angry a lot, and had a chip on my shoulder…just like the ex N. I didn’t realize he was the chip. Lol But, thought I’d share this with you all…was going to keep it to myself and let it go. But, it bears sharing, that these people think that everyone around them is dumb and naïve. We are not. Hugs to you all…have a good week.
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oh, your post warms my heart
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