Wherever You Go, There You Are
Wherever You Go, There You Are
For me, this mantra says it all.
I guess I've become a boring entity on this site. My posts are no longer interesting and I have no more drama to share such as "he did that or this." I have the option to reflect on his past behaviors but, at this point, that doesn't serve me and only keeps me stuck. N hasn't treated me badly for a long time because he's out of my life and if I'm in pain, I caused it, not him.
Understanding NPD & APD is part of recovery but, once that's accomplished, I know I'm still left to deal with me, not him. I struggle with wanting N back in my life so I can be abused some more...that's the CD at work. I am still in partial denial of who he is and his evil illness but, the good new is that I'm finally getting to know me.
Not much is about N anymore. It's now about self examination and healing and being honest with myself about my character defects, faulty beliefs and long standing wounds. I didn't end up with N's by accident.
I'm still angry about being used, lied to and betrayed but, in a sense, I betrayed myself for the sake of a sick version of love which is also very narcissistic. The hardest thing to reconcile is that there are people in this world with no conscious who simply do not care. At one point, I couldn't relate to that but, I know now that pure evil exists. It can be disguised with good looks, status, wealth, charm, charisma, power and a bunch of other things but, it's nothing but a costume and I sure got fooled and remained in some serious denial for a long time.
I'm going out to purchase a punching bag now; for real. Life can be very unfair at times and I need to get out the anger. I've come full circle and realize that wherever I go, there I am. Change starts with me.
Tresor2
Oh my gosh
RP - I'm realizing too, that in the end,
Very vulnerable...
I was also drawn to
Oh gosh, yes. I used to
Yes, the universe
Tresor, When I first heard
Nan
Tres, I'm going to rewrite the script
spinning
Thank you Spinning,
This is an excellent short