Why am I all about closure? Ugh...yes, broke NC
Why am I all about closure? Ugh...yes, broke NC
But...don't worry. It's back in force. lol I know.
Let me explain what happened. So...the texts continued throughout the day...into the evening. Went to dinner with my daughter, he left voicemails. He can change his voice when he wishes to, to appear...calm and nice. His voicemails were basically...'Dee, talk to me. I hope you had a good day...''
One of them was...''Hey wife...I miss you.'' He called me wife a lot. Another red flag being we have been dating for two months.
So, my daughter and I get home...and I decide to sit outside on the porch. Phone rings....it's him. I decided to pick it up. Not sure why, but...I did. He was shocked I picked up. He said...''I didn't expect to get you. How are you?''
We talked. He went on and on about how he missed me, and how he wants to get back to the way things were. I am not saying much, just listening.
THEN? I decided to voice my opinion. What a mistake...he turned everything around to look like it was my fault. He said...''well, you disrespect me a lot, Dee...so, if you didn't do that, I wouldn't have to get shitty with you.'' I called him at work when he told me not to = disrespect, for those wondering what he meant. *eye roll*
It was at that very moment...it all just clicked. It clicked this morning, too...when I ignored him today. But, I like closure. Something about saying goodbye. Perhaps because I never got to say goodbye to my parents...before they died...It means something to me to say the words...''goodbye'' when ending something. I dunno.
I said to him...''you know, you used to think I was great.''
His reply? ''You weren't like this.'' Oh really? lol Like this? Like the girl you've created? Who you say nothing nice to most of the time?
He then blurts out...''when you lose your attitude, call me.'' hahaha!! I said...''It's time for us to say goodbye, now. I won't be calling you anymore.''
Silence for a few seconds.
He then screamed...FUCK YOU!!!!!!!!!! and hung up on me. In a voice that sounded...like a monster. Ladies, it was a scary tone...seriously. I'm not joking.
I guess that's closure. haha
Anyways...I have not shed one tear. Except... FOR him. I feel sorry for this man. Not to take him back. No. I'm done. I'm out. But, my friend said he has always had a pic up of the two of us on FB. As his main pic. (I don't have FB active anymore) It is just sad that he didn't know the kind of love I had for him. I was very good to this man. And he just stopped seeing it.
But, I'm done analyzing this. We could sit here and analyze it to death. He's a narcissist. He is incapable of true, agape love. He is incapable of accepting love. Instead, he views it as a license to hurt someone. I don't blame myself. I think I needed to see how long it would take before he dropped the nice guy act...so I would know for sure...ending it was the right thing.
Isn't it funny how we do this dance in our heads? lol
It's helped sharing this whole thing with you all. I am officially NC (again) ....I talked this out with my friend who knows him, and she said that she thinks he will call me...and try to get me back. I dunno. Oh. He texted me after hanging up and said the following:
"Congratulations Dee. You have single handedly sabotaged our relationship with your head trip issues. You are a quitter...and ruined our future. GOOD JOB!''
Like how I'm blamed for this? :=)
I thought that was weird, even for him. WTH? Head trip issues? I know what he's referring to. He's referring to my fear of loss...what an asshole. To throw up something I shared in confidence as the reason this ended.
Anywho. That's what happened tonight. What do you all think? I feel bad I broke NC like that. :=( I feel like I owe you all an apology for that, seeing you were all supportive. But, please support me again. I will remain strong.
Personally, he has a huge ego and pride...and I see him going away now. I think hearing me say the words...''goodbye'' truly shocked him. He didn't think I had it in me to end this.
I did it though. I ended this. I said the words. I pray he does not come to find me. He doesn't know where I live or anything....I just don't want problems from him.
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