Why do I keep second guessing myself?

Hi Jodie, Everyone has given you such great advice and I agree with all of it. One thing I can add is this: Whenever we look back on a past relationship, we always remember the good times more than the bad. The reason is quite simple. As humans, we have what is called "selective memory." We have a natural defense system within us that causes us to block out bad memories and retain good ones. This is why some people may not remember a traumatic event from their youth until much later in adulthood. Our mind blocks out these events for a reason....to protect us. Because we have selective memory, we do not remember the bad things as much as the good. We remember the good times and we ALWAYS idealize the past. Everything looks so much better when we look back on it. This is one good reason to journal because when you do question yourself for leaving, which WE ALL DO at some point, you can refer to your journal for specific examples of horrible things he said or did. This will remind you of why you did what you needed to do to save yourself. Hang in there. This is the hardest part, but you can get through it and will find happiness. xoxo, Lisa