Why is it so hard to leave?

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#1 Jul 24 - 3AM
Striped
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Why is it so hard to leave?

Sorry, second thread in a day. Oops.

I am still not sure if my man is a narc or not. He meets some criteria, so would certainly have "tendencies", which should be enough. Interestingly, the more I read about narcissism, the more I think my ex (who broke my heart) may have been one. He was really nice to the world, but a shit to me. I always knew he loved me, but he kept my self esteem in the gutter. After 3 years it hit me, he was a very scared little boy who was terrified of being left (his ex had left him for her boss). After that, I stopped letting him bully me, his behaviour became worse of course. I left him.

I met this man. And for two years he's treated me like shit. Hot and cold. Jealous. I can not share anything "good" about my life, he stops talking to me if I do. He gaslights me. He denies stuff. He re-writes history. And it's always my fault.

So why is it so hard to leave them? Why do they have such a hold over us?

Jul 24 - 2PM
Done sourcing
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Since you asked...maybe it is

Jul 24 - 1PM
what.a.mess
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Because we were conditioned

Jul 24 - 1PM (Reply to #6)
Striped
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Thanks, that makes sense too.

Jul 24 - 1PM (Reply to #7)
what.a.mess
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The highs are faker than FAKEEEEEE!

Jul 24 - 9AM
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Striped, only you can

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Jul 24 - 1PM (Reply to #2)
Striped
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Thanks spinning. Yes, it's

Jul 24 - 2PM (Reply to #4)
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striped

Jul 24 - 2PM (Reply to #3)
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