Why Would he always Say this To Me?

He was speaking in Narsso-Speak. the purpose was to confuse you and to frighten you. then he watches your non-verbal communication for clues and cues. He watches your eyes, face, body language and then laughs inside that he has 'tuned you up'. That is a slang expression that he has controlled your emotions and made you re-act. They get great satisfaction and amusement from this. It can be turned around by always asking a question like bigger where, or bigger in what way? that confuses them. Never show confusion or fear and if possible do no contact and don't have to be bothered. There is a 'bit- done by the comedians Abbott and Costello called, "whose on First" where they tune one another up by using references to baseball. If you can find a copy of this, maybe on-line somewhere, it is funny and exactly copies what narcissists do using words to control another person. Once you know what it is and how it is done you won't let it happen.

Intimidation can be a big part of their abuse tactics. Not actually harming you physically, but the threat is present. My ex said to me, "it's about time you had a man in your life to boss you"...I really laugh about this now, but he meant it, I'm sure. He was attempting to take my power away. As if a relationship should be about one partner bossing the other one around!!! The 'welcome to my dungeon' and 'you are in for a rough ride' to me are a pretty blatant expression of how he plans to treat you. Not much reading between the lines there!

the same thing mine always said, I told him I try to stay a step ahead of you and he said, ya but I will trip you. And that he did