Why would she stay with a Narc?

The reasons anyone would stay in a bad relationship can be fear of being alone,fear of money problems, fear of leaving, fear of scorn and ridicule, fear of harming any children, etc etc. It is always about fear. Fear is devastating on the psyche and physically. It creates an environment that causes ulcers, heart attack, stroke, psychological problems, and a host of other things. It is natural to be curious as you have been conditioned to think you were the one at fault and his ability to live with her enforces that belief in your mind. It isn't true it is just a smoke and mirror relationship heading for the end. You are the successful one. You got out of something that was fear based and moved on with your life. You deserve a lot of credit the present victim of your ex doesn't have your courage.

the woman who has been the "front" for the Narc, making him look like a legitimate, loving boyfriend and now husband I used to ask this question all the time, and as Barbara told me too, look at her X, he has been married 25 years and is a sexual predator of the worst kind, pretty comparable to mine. You already gave yourself the answer: the woman who has been the front of the narc, making him look like a legitimate, loving boyfriend and now husband, EXACTLY that is the reason and ONLY reason they always have OW, someone as a front. How do they do it and WHY do those women stay? Same reason I stayed for three years believing all his lies and slick manipulation, same reason I went back no matter how horrible he treated me, I was conned into the illusion of a psychopath and that is all it is, they appear to be whatever you want them to be and they play that role for you. My Psychopath's OW wants a boyfriend, someone committed to her, someone to share his life with her, and that is the act he gives her, not such a difficult act to keep up either, in return he gets loved, cared for, another warm body there so he is never alone, she just isnt getting any genuine love in return from his heart but she thinks she is just by the mere fact he lets her live with him and they do things together, doesnt matter really who it is just as long as its someone. Think about this too, the women they cheat with on the side, do you think for one minute they will dump the GF and replace them with the ones they cheat with? The women they cheat with already know they are cheaters, they have seen the side of him he hides from his Significant other, it would never work, He showed me his sneaky ways, what he does to cover his tracks when he cheats, what lengths he takes to make sure nothing was left behind, no neighbors saw anything, always made me park my car a street down from his house, and duck down in his truck until we were in his garage, nobody saw me coming or going while his GF was out of town, so if the GF even suspected and had a neighbor watch, neighbors saw nothing, no strange cars, nobody come in and out etc.... If I was his live in GF there would be NO TRUST, I would know everytime he went hunting for deer he would screw someone at a hotel on the way back because been there and done that with him. I would know when I went out of town he would cheat, IN OUR BED TOO, the women they cheat with as much as they may find them even better or more attractive to their wives, could NEVER be their wives and live in partners. What is her life like with him? She thinks its pretty much normal, and she is willing to accept and put up with their selfishness, (they are all selfish) their pouting acts, I think the smart Psychopaths who want to KEEP their wives and GF's dont abuse them blatantly and out in front, they do it behind their backs with their lies and cheating, if they want to keep them for the role they probably treat them good playing the perfect sweet charming boyfriend.

Psycho-Boy's been married 25 years. His wife's been told again & again, yet she stays... believes him... has even helped him harass me. Right now he's been unemployed for 15 months and she's paying all the bills - helping maintain their lavish lifestyle in their VERY upscale neighborhood and he's making sure his mealticket isn't going anywhere. serious hypnosis, brainwashing and fear. and DENIAL ~~~~~~~~~~~~ My Abuse Information Site Online Coaching & Help

She is weak. She knows in her heart he is a cheater. She doesn't want to give up her life, her fantasy life of believing he is the perfect. It is too painful for her to bear. It would be too much change. She is so deluded, brainwashed, under his control, and revolving around him. A pathetic life if you ask me. Totally dishonest guy that just thinks she is stupid. Narcs secretly look down on all their victims. Oh they will take you for dinner, get you engagement rings, vacation, whatever, knowing they have done what they have behind your back. They always have a back up, and are not commited to their live in woman. No good man would ever do that, they are sick, personality disordered people, who make other people's life miserable. They will string people along for years, go to whatever lengths necessary (take your kids places, holidays, whatever) to fool you. When you learn that he dumps her too someday, and moves onto another, you will know in your heart why the OW stays. Weakness.