Wow this is interesting

thats really interesting, so odd too, i always say i wish i had a mind eraser...lol.........i cant believe that its so true that the negative depletes us of our self esteem and confidence, no wonder why ive been so down on myself for years..... thanks for the link....xoxo Jaycee

I believe that everything happens for a reason. Often times the reason is not evident at the time. When I was a child I was born into a warzone. I was a happy, loving, creative, child interested in nature, anmimals, art, music, people and learning. My family situation was one of conflict, sadness, anger, depression and I can remember saying to myself on many occasions, who are these people??? I derived my solace from outside of the family unit. I excelled in school, in clubs, civic organizations, and with friends. I divorced myself from my family as much as possible and thought that I was fine. I had little trouble with jobs, school, or with my friends. The first time I noticed that something was seriously wrong was when I began to date men. I chose men with major problems and the effects of the relationships would cause me horrific emotional stress which in turn would begin to spill into other area's of my life. My solution was to stay out of relationships, this way I could function on a relatively high level and not suffer from emotional stress, which I don't appear to have much of without the negative men in my life. Somehow the ability or notion of being in a healthy relationship escaped me. Years went by without any relationships and I thought by now I must be cured, NOT. The last couple of relationships were not good, until the NARC almost a year and a half ago now. That one was the worst relationship I have ever had in my life and he triggered all that repressed crap from my chilhood. Which at the time I thought was a negative nightmare. Today, I look at it as an opportunity for me to at long last address this subconscience stuff from long ago and at long last find a way to put it to bed and eventually have a loving real relationship that is not all about pain, loss, disappointment, deceit, and all the rest of it. I have a strong feeling inside of me tonight that the area of lack of self esteem with myself as a women with men and healing in this area fully is the only way to go. I am totally confident in business, with friends, and in most all of the other area's of my life except this one. I just spent the last couple of hours researching this guy and I believe he is the real deal, what he says makes perfect sense to me and I am ready for it, the real clincher was when I found out his book is all about self esteem and that is the area where I need the most work. I am exhausted from talking about the Narc, I really just don't care about him anymore and his ridiculous antics. He is not the point, I am and my recovery is, and we can all make it through this and back to our own selves and our own thoughts where we belong. Yes, I am damaged from the Narc, however, I don't want that to be how I define myself anymore. I am so much more than that and he is just a small sliver of what makes me who and what I am. A sliver I hope to have removed from my being, never to return again. I think this is a stage after we get all the crap out, the stage of renewal and rebirth. Thanks for the link. God bless, Goldie

Ahh this sounds like Scientology retoric to me ... and we all know what a load of **** they are , some would say crooks but i couldnt comment on that . Sick of it like you i am trolling through the internet trying to find a cure and a reason to all this and i havnt given up , only last night i posed a question to a very sprital guy i know and he is looking into breaking psychic cords for me and will get back to me if he comes up with anything . Keep looking .. i will too and keep sharing as it is important to do that .

I have heard of this, yet never looked into it. I just emailed him for a consultation. I believe totally in the power of our minds and thoughts in influencing how we behave. I personally believe that I have deep seated insecurities surrounding men which lead me to my choices in men and would love to get at the root of this. Talk therapy has done very little to erase or lesson the damage from these beliefs nor has knowledge, in my case. Perhaps removing the lies from my subconscience would help. I'll let you know. God bless, Goldie

This guy used to be a psychiatrist, but from what I could gather, his treatment isn't based upon conventional psychiatry or psychology. You have to buy that negative memories are not "natural" and do not belong inside you. I agree they cause people to be very ill and disabled (chronic PTSD, complex PTSD). I'd like to hear from someone who paid to get this treatment, not a testimonial he puts up on his websites. I don't see how it could hurt anyone, but it strains my credulity a little bit. If it works and helps people, I don't care how it stretches me. EMDR was another wone of those sort of far out things, and it has become very widely used and you can get real testimonials from many sources not linked right up to a practitioner. Over time it's become a real thing. I couldn't find a single NONpositive thing about him, and I googled him with advanced googling, searched for his name on places like RickRoss.com (who keeps a watch out for charlatans, cults, scams). There was NOTHING google could come up with that said anything NONpositive, which makes me wonder all on it's own. I'd want something with long(er) term studies behind it. Lots of stuff works immediately, but what about over time? How can a memory literally be erased? He says it can. You'd think that this would have been in the Scientific American or something. That is HUGE news, that is unprecidented news.

Can I say...I feel like this forum is like OZ? lol No kidding. I thought last week, through a few days strung in a row of nothing but endless crying over the narc...that it would be heaven to be able to get rid of bad memeories. Wow! Thanks for this thread.