WOW!! My PSYCHO EXPERIENCE saturday night!!

I had to tell you all what happened on Saturday night!!! Sorry this is long, but worth the time/read.

My cousin (I have a BIG Fam ya'll) lives in Atlanta and recently was here because her Mother had heart issues and needed to have surgery. It was very touch and go and she has traveled down from Atlanta to Florida 3 x in the last month. She met a man at a bar in December named "Chad" (not real name) and has been talking to him long distance since that time. He lives 4 houses down from my home in Florida, on the same street as me. I have heard about him and he sounded like a Narc to me from some her stories but did not meet him yet. Her stories were about his behavior has became increasingly more 'narcy' after her mother's heart problems.

I spent much of Saturday and sat night with her and her mother (my aunt) after she was discharged from the hospital and I spent the day into the night helping out. I got home around 1030pm.

Ok this is where this all starts.

I was doing laundry (I had been gone all day/night) and I hear a knock at the door. I look out to see a bearded man on my porch with a bottle of wine and two wine glasses. He says " Hey Momoya, I'm Chad! We haven't met but D(cousin name)is coming over and thought I would meet her and share some wine" So I open the door and say "oh hi I didn't realize she was coming over, I just left her at her Mom's house." He says "oh yea, she told me to meet her here." I thought to myself that she must of wanted to get away and I believed she was coming over to my place so I didn't call her right away.

I let him in and he asks me if I want some wine I say 'no, thank you' it was too late for me to drink and he pulls a wine opener from his pocket and poors two glasses full anyway.

I politely sip it and we make small talk about how we have never met but have lived only 4 houses away. He and I sit and chat for 30 mins before I ask about my cousin and say "so when is she coming over?" he didn't seem to know and I decided to call her. She tells me that she doesn't really undestand why he is there as she did NOT say she was coming over to my place and she did NOT tell him to go over to my place to meet her. I told her "Here, talk to your boyfriend!' and I listened as they talk and I did laundry. He hangs up with her and says " hey sorry about this confusion I thought she told me to meet her at your place" I said it was ok but it's getting late and I was ready to go to bed. It was around 11pm by this time. I said "really I am very tired Chad, I have been with my Aunt all day and night and I am not up for company" he says" ok ok I will go after I finish this glass of wine" I politely indulge him.

He never finishes his glass of wine because he keeps filling up the same glass. And, also pushing wine on me after I had said no 3 times. I noticed he kept pushing the glass towards me and saying "aw come on!" we talk and he has 2 glasses of wine and I am waiting for him to leave.

He then proceeds to make the following comments to me:

- "So, I heard that you had a little boyfriend problem not too long ago, and I was wondering if you had any questions for me?"

I replied "OH REALLY? No, I don't have questions for YOU. Why would I need to ask you anything about that situation???" he said "oh because I am a guy and maybe I can give you some insight or answer any questions you might still have" I said " No Chad, I certainly don't need to consult you on that as we just met and you don't know anything about it." He says to me condescendingly "well you knew he was a married man" I said " EXCUSE me?! LISTEN CHAD, you and I just met and you have no idea what you are talking about. So I am going to be nice and tell you it's really none of your business and it's certainly not a topic up for discussion"! I again said 'it's really late Chad, I am ready to go to bed NOW!' and he says " ok ok don't get all defensive, I will finish this up in a few mins" he then pulls out a cigarette and asked if he can smoke and I said "no you can't smoke in my home" she proceeds to tell me

- That recently my cousin has been a 'real bitch'. She has not even came by to see him since she has been home. He said "I really don't know what she expects me to do about her sick mom, I mean what does she want?" I told him "I am not up for discussing your relationship or telling you what to do" Her mother has been seriously ill and almost died. If you can't figure out what to do that is your problem"

He then says to me - "well no one tells me what to do- and I was just letting YOU know. Maybe you can help her not be such a bitch. You seem real nice." (WTFE!)

Then says to me:

-"You know since I have been here I have noticed atleast 8 ways to get into this house. You really should let me come over here and install some protection features. You are just ripe for being robbed. "

then -

- "Do you mind if I have a look around your house?"

UH YES I DO!

- "Well then, Can I just go stand in your bedroom for a few seconds?" - WHY? I asked him "Because I want to sense something" I said "WHAT? Are you psychic or something?" he said "no I just want to see if I can sense something about you."

NO YOU CAN'T GO STAND IN MY BEDROOM!

I said -"Chad please leave I am really tired. I have asked you to go now atleast 5 times".

HE again says" ok ok Just a few mintues & I am almost done.Sheesh!" I remind him that it's now going on 2 hours since he has been in my house - uninvited.

I proceed to finish and fold my laundry and he says to me ..."you know, you really shouldn't fold laundry around me, because I find it REALLY SEXY"

I said "well Chad, there is nothing sexy at all about it and I it's time for you to go" he says "ok Can I use your bathroom real quick?" I said 'sure go ahead'. (eye roll)

I call my cousin and it's now after midnight and I ask her WTF??!!?? he is not leaving!!

She tells me " he's just drunk, he's harmless just ask him to go" I told her "I ALREADY ASKED HIM TO LEAVE 5 TIMES!!" She tells me to call her again after he leaves.

He comes back and sits on the sofa and finishes his wine and says " Momoya you are really one incredible woman, I really like your cousin but she is like a wet towel she is not fiesty like you"

I said "Chad, I could really give two shits right now, I am tired could you please go?" he says "well if you let me peek into your bedroom then I will go" I said - "no way I am running out of patience with you Chad!" he says 'well, what happens when you run out of patience?" I was thinking WTF This guy likes that he is making me mad?!??

He proceeds to get up and pull up my blinds and tells me he wants to "check the locks on my windows" WHy I ask? "just to see something he says" I again said "Chad It's TIME FOR YOU TO LEAVE!" I go over and put the blind down and said "come one go out side and smoke your cigarette and you can tell me all about how unsafe my locks are" this worked and I figured once I had him outside I would not let come back in!

I follow him out and carry my keys with me, and lock my door behind me.( I don't know why I did this) So he lights up and we stand on the porch in the darkness and he is smoking and looking at me in the dark and I am getting more and more creeped out. And I said "what time is it Chad? " he says" it's 134am" I said " Well this is were you leave now." He just stands there quietly smoking and looking at me.

He says" You know.. Momoya... I really, really want to fuck the shit out of you." I walk up to him and slap his face. He says "OOoo you little cunt, is that the best you can do?" So I slap him again, as hard as I can. And he smirks at me, like he likes it! He says "MMM. you know you would be grateful for it!" It was like both of the slaps and literally no affect on him at all. It was like he liked getting the rise out of me, it was like he liked pushing someone toward violence!

(I was seriously concerned for myself at this point. I noticed I was with a man I didn't know at nearly 2am by myself and had left my phone in side!) I was seriously pissed too.

I said "Chad, you have about 1 minute to leave, get off my fucking porch, get off my property. I am going inside now, and I going to dial 911 and if you are not gone by the time I look out my winder, I am going to press send and call the police" I said "Chad you have been warned, I am NOT FUCKING PLAYING WITH YOU! GET THE FUCK OUT OF HERE NOW YOU ASSHOLE!!" He just stares at me, smoking.

I walked around to my back door and let my self in the house locking it behid me. Get my phone dial 911 and look out to see him pulling away in his truck....

and he finally left around 2am.