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"As soon as you feel that crazy sense of walking on eggshells, fending off N-rage, stop. Walk away." - Dr. M. Beck
He could certainly have started and embedded his process then... and then added teeny bits to it over time.
Yes. It can be THAT easy.
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Barbara i have a question . Could he had brainwahed me over night . Im not proud of it but we once did MDNA . I compleatly fogot about 3 hours of time but i have flash backs of him staring at me almost trying to get in to my head . the next morning i felt very strange and it was proberly the afects of the drug . but if i think about it it was round about then these obsessional thoughts have kicked in , this was about 7 months ago .
he also in an email to me talked of hypnosis a couple of weeks ago . it was on the lines that he was talking about hypnosis to his friend and they where talking how it was possible with a touch of the hand etc . this i thought was strange as it was not in context to the rest of the email , it was more like a random statement . This would sujest he has done it on purpus , could it be that easy ?
Peru x
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These methods have been used in times of war to brainwash prisoners of war. Do any of these sound familiar to you ?
Isolation
Abuser uses threats, demands, and manipulation to cut victim off from other people. Victim becomes dependent on abuser for everything, including social contact.
Monopolizing attention
Victim feels she needs abuser's approval for everything. Victim "walks on eggshells" to keep abuser from getting angry. Abuser resents and tries to get rid of anything that competes for victim's attention.
Inducing exhaustion weakness
Victim is deprived of sleep, or constantly in fear. Begins to feel she is completely and helpless and can not take any action for herself.
Threats
Abuser keeps victim in constant fear and anxiety by making threats to harm her or the things she loves, or to leave her, ruin her reputation, or embarrass her.
Occasional indulgences
Abuser gives victim gifts or tokens of affection to keep her hoping for more, usually right when he realizes he's gone too far and she's about to leave.
Demonstrating omnipotence
Abuser claims to be all-powerful an always right, and does things to to demonstrate this, and to demonstrate how weak and stupid the victim is.
Degradation
Abuser ridicules victim, or ignores her, or forces her to do degrading things or actions she believes are wrong.
Enforcing trivial demands
Abuser insists things be done his way, forces victim to do small things for him that he could do himself, criticizes what victim does, forces her to account for all her time.
Crazy-making
Abuser denies or lies about reality so much that victim begins to doubt herself. Abuser makes good qualities seem bad, makes false accusations, and tells victim she's crazy or stupid.
EMOTIONAL/PSYCHOLOGCAL ABUSE CONTINUUM
Targeted/repeated emotional abuse can have severe effects on the victim's sense of self and realty.
Brainwashing
*Offers to stay with victim because he/she "needs me and can't make it without me"
* Threatens to abuse children or get custody
* Tells partner/ others about affairs
*Demands al of partners attention/resents children
* Puts down partners abilities as parent, worker, and lover
* Threatens violence/retaliation
* Labels victim "crazy, bitch, whore, scorned"
* Blames victim for all faults
* Humiliates repeatedly (in private or public)
* Repeatedly insults (fat, smells bad, ugly...)
* Calls names
* Yells
* Withholds approval as punishment
* Insults women
* Jokes about habits/faults of partner
Possible consequences to victim :
* Displays symptoms reflecting "mental illness"
* Has nervous breakdown, depression, PTSD
* Questions sense of reality
* Experiences unpredictable onsequences of actions
* Feels powerless/ helpless
* Commits suicide
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Abusive Breakdown Tactics - the tools of abuse
Here are some of the tactics abuser's use to hurt you... to take you down and keep you there. How many do you recognize?
Verbal Assaults:
Berating, belittling, criticizing, name calling, screaming, threatening, excessive blaming, and using sarcasm and humiliation. Blowing flaws out of proportion and making fun of you in front of others. Over time, this type of abuse erodes your sense of self confidence and self-worth.
Domination:
The abuser wants to control your every action. They have to have their own way, and will resort to threats to get it. When you allow someone else to dominate you, you can lose respect for yourself.
Emotional Blackmail:
The abuser plays on your fear, guilt, compassion, values, or other "hot buttons" to get what they want. This could include threats to end the relationship, the "cold shoulder," or use other controlling fear tactics.
Gaslighting:
The other person may deny that certain events occurred or that certain things were said. You know differently. The other person may deny your perceptions, memory and very sanity. It is this act of abuse which makes you begin to think you are crazy or losing your mind.
Unpredictable Responses:
Drastic mood changes or sudden emotional outbursts. Whenever someone in your life reacts very differently at different times to the same behavior from you, tells you one thing one day and the opposite the next, or likes something you do one day and hates it the next, you are being abused with unpredictable responses.
This behavior is damaging because it puts you always on edge. You're always waiting for the other shoe to drop, and you can never know what's expected of you. You must remain hyper-vigilant, waiting for the other person's next outburst or change of mood.
An alcoholic or drug abuser is likely to act this way. Living with someone like this is tremendously demanding and anxiety provoking, causing the abused person to feel constantly frightened, unsettled and off balance.
Abusive Expectations:
The other person places unreasonable demands on you and wants you to put everything else aside to tend to their needs. It could be a demand for constant attention, frequent sex, no sex or a requirement that you spend all your free time with the person.
But no matter how much you give, it's never enough. You are subjected to constant criticism, and you are constantly berated because you don't fulfill all this person's needs.
Constant Chaos:
The other person may deliberately start arguments and be in constant conflict with others. The person may be "addicted to drama" since it creates excitement.
A GRAPHIC TO EXPLAIN MIND CONTROL:
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you've been BRAINWASHED
how the Narcs do it to us!
you were not stupid, naive or gullible. you were....
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