Things to do for yourself, and not focus on the Narcissist
Things to do for yourself, and not focus on the Narcissist
I thought it would be productive to start a forum to give eachother ideas on things we can do for ourselves as we go through the process of getting over the narcissist in our lives. These guys have conditioned our minds to be focused on them. Now we need to condition our minds to not focus on them, and take care of ourselves as we go through the healing process. Here are some good ideas:
1. Going to counseling on a regular basis
2. Spending time with family regularly during the week, if they are long distance - contact via phone or email
3. Scheduling a lunch, or a dinner, or coffee with a friend once a week
4. Picking up your favorite gourmet coffee
5. Going to the spa for a facial or massage
6. Take a dance lesson - swing, salsa, merengue, ballroom dancing, etc.
7. Take a class to learn another language, I would love to learn Italian!
8. Saving money for a trip, I would love to go to Europe. This gives me something to look forward to...
9. Picking up a new outfit. I found a really nice suit today for just $20.00 at Ross.
10. Going to a museum. I went to see a medieval art exhibition this past weekend and it was so interesting!
11. Hold someone's baby. This feels like you're embracing the essence of "life". My sister has twins, so I get to hug them frequently
12. Stop to see the toulips or to smell the roses! Embrace nature! I have toulips in my front yard, and I was ignoring them, and my neighbor reminded me that my toulips were beautiful and I needed to stop and admire their beauty
13. Get your nails done, you can even do this at home
14. Soak your feet in hot water with scented soap
15. Get in a bubble bath, put some music in the background. Light a scented candle.
16. Watch cartoons every once in a while! On Saturday AM, and eat pancakes! Yummy! This reminds me of my childhood
17. Or watch an episode of "I love Lucy" - this can be refreshing, as it is light and funny content
18. Grab a book and sit outside, and enjoy the Spring breeze the touch of the wind, and the sound of the trees
19. Go watch a movie! Comedy helps!
20. Exercise
21. Go back to school
22. Go get a make over, MAC does a pretty good job!
23. Listen to music during routine activities such as cooking, cleaning, or doing bills, to lighten things up
24. Get a new haircut or hair color
25. Pick a special occasion to go to the theatre, Opera, or a concert!
26. Get a pet. I have 2 siamese cats and they are so therapeutic!
27. Write on a journal
If you have kids (Here's my sister's contribution to the forum):
1. Go to the park with the kids
2. Go to the zoo
3. Make a pizza together
4. Bake cookies or brownies
5. Make home made popcorn and watch a movie
6. Do some crafts together
7. Take them to "story time" at the Library
8. Make root beer floats
9. Some art museums have an area where kids can do art
10. Go for a picnic, just take a blanket and a cooler with sandwiches and drinks. Take a ball for the kids, and a book for yourself
11. Put a puzzle together
12. Make artwork with finger paint
13. Make scrapbooks
Ladies, any other ideas?
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