Totally Stunned's Story
Totally Stunned's Story
I was with a narcissistic man for just under 2 years. We had the typical honeymoon beginning with daily texts, calls, emails, and oh the charm and charisma of this man is un-nerving. He told me things that I hadn't heard, and the compliments were amazing. He made me feel like I was flying and I was the most beautiful woman in the world. I could quote a gazillion lines from the man's narc seduction handbook of phrases, but my personal favorite has always been that "he was uncomfortable at the thought of losing me ever". And..he craved attention. Told me he wanted to hear from me everyday. Was really upset if I didnt call him for a day or two.
It was a long distance affair, so we only saw eachother a few times with loads of loving over the phone via texts and airwaves. After each encounter, I was told how he loved me, treasured me, looked at me as someone permanent in his life and he was into our relationship for the long haul. Now. None of this makes me innocent. I could have said NO at any time. But I didnt. He knew exactly what to say to me, and I fell for each and every word.
Over the course of the relationship, I discovered he had been flirting with many other women, and although I didn't like it, I never said anything, because I always thought he was "just flirting" and I was still "the one". He also started showing his hot/cold behavior, and he started being very distant. Would never initiate any discussion. And he started to brag about his sexual relationships and how he is an amazing lover. The bragging made me sick.
One day in March, he chose to end the relationship. Yep. So...I went No Contact from that day on. NOT to help myself mind you...but I read that this may actually get him back. Can you believe this?
After a month of NC, he texted me asking if I forgot about him. And if I was avoiding him. He was sweet. I answered. Of course. I loved him, remember? We talked, and I received sporadic texts from him telling me how he missed me, he wants to hold me in his arms, he wants to take me places, he wonders what life would be with me, you know...the sweeping me off my feet texts. Calling me his lover, how he wants me stuff. I fell for it. Again.
I gave him a second chance. We met up at the end of July but his behavior was off. He was upset about not getting attention from family, etc. I was weak. I should have said no. Thought about saying no. But, I said yes instead. We left things by me texting him at the airport telling him how I will remember our time together with happy thoughts. He told me that "we are extremely compatible and everything seems just right when we are together".
HERE IS THE BOMB. I never heard from him again. Ever. Nothing. What the hell? He has NEVER just dropped me before like this. I have not contacted him either. It will be 3 weeks and neither of us have contacted eachother. Am I supposed to? Is he ignoring me? Did he have enough of me? Is he sick of me?
Right now, I am feeling hurt, anger and confusion. There is so much more to the story, but wanted to at least try to keep it short.
PLEASE, what on earth is he thinking? And why am I still stuck on him?
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I salute you!
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I'm so sorry for your grief.
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