Had a run in with the ex friend today and i am OK
Had a run in with the ex friend today and i am OK
First, wow thanks for the new topic area, since I have been married to a male N and friends with the female version, this will be helpful.
Well, some may know that i had a falling out with my friend of 20 years earlier this year. Basically she was selfish, took advantage of my good nature and made me feel bad about myself. We have not spoken, and although it has been hard I am learning to move on and finding the real me again, after my divorce last year and this incident as well.
So, part of my story is that i helped my ex friend get a job. A good one, with a major company, the same one I work for. So there is always the chance of a run in, even though the place is huge and we work on different floors. Well today it happened, i was on another floor for a meeting, and we had the bathroom run in. I was coming out, she was going in. Mind you we have not spoken, and she was the one at fault, but to be polite and cordial i said "hey" as i walked by. She scowled at me, and kept walking. It hurt but was not unexpected and I was proud of myself for being the bigger person. So I carry on with my day, and run to the ladies room again, and sure enough, there she was and she says to me "Hello again". Um again? Is she psycho? Everything is fine now? Um. i dont think so, a simple cordial Hi does not mean, all is forgiven, its not a welcome to her to come back into my life and treat me like crap again.
I know the whole thing sounds like high school and in a way it is, but the reason i bring it up is I for once, am ok with this. She has been my trigger, the person that makes me feel bad about myself, and the thing is, i don't feel bad, i don't really feel anything. Maybe confused, which I am, but sad, no, angry, no. It's odd in a way. Maybe i am healing, or maybe i have figured out what and who I need in my life. It feels good but strange in way.
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