Does this sound like a narcissist?
Does this sound like a narcissist?
Hello everybody, I've come here looking for info (if possible).
I have been seeing a man for the past 15 months. He displays odd behavior but I am not sure if it would fall under the term narcissistic or not.
He is fiercely competitive with me.
He never compliments me, unless it's to say something like "nice arse". If I'm successful at something, do something well etc, I get nothing.
He is unsupportive when something in my life goes wrong. This week something pretty awful happened to me. He was texting me for updates, but no "I'm sorry, here if you need me" etc. I was just getting a text reading "update?"
He blows hot and cold all the time. He's been over me like a rash lately, but last weekend pulled back & just stopped talking. When I asked him what was going on, he ended it. He has finished things with me about 4 times now.
He stalks me. Last time he ended it, he knew where I'd be the next day, and deliberately drove past. He also follows me around to a sport I play (he also plays, and has decided to play at the same time). Even a girlfriend has commented on his bizarre behavior around me. He then proceeded to email me with his critique of my skills (I'm okay apparently, but need to work on XYZ".
Other people have commented on his strange behavior in general. Most people either say that he's weird or he's rude. I don't think he actually sets out to be rude, he just suffers from foot in mouth disease. He doesn't think before he makes comments about people (such as their appearance).
The one time I tried to end it, he sulked around. When he saw me in public he stormed off, got in his car & you could literally hear the tyres screeching. Yet when he ended things with me the last time, when he saw me, he commented on how uncomfortable I looked (I was devastated), and asked me why.
It seems just as I begin to start feeling better about him rejecting me, his radar pings & he comes back. He is very closely tied to my private life, so it is fairly necessary to see him.
Do you think the above description fits a narcissist, or is he just a selfish and uncaring pig?
"maybe I should just leave "
or is he just a selfish and uncaring pig?
pathological or porcine?
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Striped, let's not focus too much
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Yes, striped, there is/was
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I'm sorry, I had no intention
Okay, Striped, here we go...
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on a diagnosis and just on
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Gosh I miss him. This is so
Good mask, bad mask.... It's
striped
I can't do NC, I can (and am)
you can still do NC just stop
so you are saying
Striped
striped
Sounds classic Narc to me. I
I feel so much better today.
Things
He's not so bad materially.
NC
It's awful, I can't escape
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That's interesting to hear.
Thank you all so much. I
Striped