Narcs and long term friends
Narcs and long term friends
There was a 10 yr gap between my Narc and I's two tries at romance, and I was just trying to think of how many long term friends she has, because she does have a few.
Just seeing if this sounds familiar to you;
1) Mother, a paranoid schizo with 4 daughters from 4 men. The mom waits on the N hand and foot, until she drives the N crazy and they have a huge fight and she leaves for 9 months. To her credit, of the 4 girls, the N is the only one who still talks to the mother.
2) Sisters. Little to no contact, or extremely contentious contact.
3) Brother. Probably a bit of a narc himself, but a different kind. He visits and they see each other about 2 weeks per yr, sometimes it ends in a big fight, sometimes not.
4) Guy friends. There are two long-term guy friends. One is a former employer who is kind of a business advisor. They have good conversations about once a month. Actually very normal and healthy. The other guy friend calls about once a month to talk about his girl problems, also pretty healthy and normal.
5) Girl friends. One friend from grade school, they used to talk all the time 10 yrs ago, this time I only heard them speak once in 1 yr, probably because the friend has 3 kids of her own...
6) Ex's... One ex still sends at least $500 in gifts per month. Her baby's father and her are complete NC.
Almost all of her friends are new, within the last 18 months or so.
I understand why an N would not have a lot of long lasting friendships, but why would they have a few normal, long lasting friendships in there? How/why do they manage that?
THEY hide motive very well .
Thank you
anonymous1 perhaps?
Thank you, TruthbeginsToday
Yes Abigail! the conditioning and beliefs that set us up
who knows why and what they
I have read a lot in here