Narc fathers
Narc fathers
I thought that might be worth writing it again down here.
My father has now to pay my study credit, since I am not able to pay it back at the moment.
My mother will pay the half of it too, she of course insisted on helping me, but he instead called all my sisters (I didnt give him my number) and complaining about how awfull and stupid I am.
Little backstory. I lived with my grandmother since I was 13, everyone of us, my sisters, tried to leave the house as early as possible, cause it was impossible to live with a violent raging narc all the time.
My mom later divorced him, but I stayed with my gran cause of the nice school I attended.
So then my grandmother got cancer when I was 16, she died when i was 18, a half year befor I finished school, my mother payed the rent of her so I could continue there, but my father didnt pay anything. I was almost starving this time, I started stealing food, friends of mine gave me food and so did some teachers at school. I have no idea how I survived that...
And he didnt care at all, all those years, but when I started studying law, he suddenly wanted contact again, calling me for legal advice and I had to write letters for him, but he never helped me with money.
Now he is building his second house with his new wife, he still gets money for being a widdower, his last wife died of cancer.
And now he is calling my sisters up and complaining. You know all those years he only stayed in contact with those sisters who had money. They are still in denial, or were, till I told them, he only comes to you for money, you know. They started thinking about it, and slowely they realized that might be true.
Cause deep in them they thought, brainwashed kids they are, he stayed in touch with them cause they are the BETTER daughters.
But then they realized, money is all he wants, and maybe a feeling of being a good father.
My mom told me recently, he always thought he is a great dad, he thought we the kids are having much more than he ever had as a poor kid, so instead of being happy about that, he always used to say, those kids have TOO much, they doing TOO well, like we were spoiled or anything, but we really werent, we were poor. And we certainly didnt get enough love from him.
Just writing it all out, cause this is in my mind now for so long.
Breisis & Jen
Father Figures
OMG I just had a revelation
Root of the problem
Goldie Narc fathers
Jen you are amazing
Jaycee
jaycee
Jen the family is ok, we will be fine
Jaycee
Jaycee
jaycee
Jaycee and Jen
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Helldweller
narc dads...Heldweller....
Aceonelady
aceonelady
helldweller...aceonelady
Aceonelady
helldweller
Jen79
helldweller
Sounds like all of the above...
thx to this forum and my therapist
Yep me too
Brie
I don't want to carry that
Jen
Weird...
Sigh..((Jen))
Blueeyes
My daughter's father is an N..
I'd tell my mother to make