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#1 May 6 - 7PM
malloryforest
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Birthday

Just finished my son's 4th birthday party. Had a whole bunch of family, and a really nice day. ExH called in morning to wish son happy bday. Had a nice party, and during cake, Ex video chated on computer to sing happy bday to son and see him blow out candles. He started to cry on video. Made me really mad. Maybe he is sad, but jeez...it is his own doing.

Called his mom later, so that she could talk to son. SHe also started crying. Also frustrated me. I am empathetic, but she supported her son in his crazy decision. What did she think was going to happen when her son cheats on his wife....

Happy to be surrounded by my family and beautiful children.

May 6 - 7PM
quietude (not verified)
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B-day

Happy Birthday to your son ~ sounds like for the most part, y'all had a great time! Mallory, isn't your stbx looking more pathetic to you? Do you notice the difference on how you feel now compared to a few weeks ago? Time and distance does wonders!
May 6 - 8PM (Reply to #2)
malloryforest
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Pathetic

You are right...he is looking more pathetic. Everything seems like a real show. He cares about son, but at his convenience. Plays great dad, when it works in schedule or has an audience. Last night he had asked to video conference with son. He knows when son goes to sleep. Kept son up. Finally son went to sleep. Emailed Ex to let him know...his response...oh, shit...me and a friend are closing down a restaurant. Last ones here! My kid is waiting, and he forgets cause he is socializing with a friend. Yes, he looks more pathetic, but really, he just looks more and more selfish and not capable of loving. His loving is based on his needs and what he gets out of it. He can't see it, but it is so obvious to anyone on the outside, not under his spell.
May 7 - 4AM (Reply to #3)
Lisa E. Scott
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Mallory

Ugh!! This man infuriates me! He asks to video conference with son, knows when he goes to bed and then keeps your son up because he's busy socializing at a restaurant! He has absolutely no ability to think of anyone but himself even on his own son's birthday! And then, he cries on the video?!!! What a pathetic excuse for a man. What the hell is he crying about? He cheated on YOU. What did he think was going to happen! This man is unbelievable. He cannot take accountability for his actions and feels entitled to special treatment even though he blatantly disrespected you and cheated on you. I am so glad you are moving on. He is toxic to you and your entire family. Oh, and then his mom cries?! WHAT?!!! I guess it explains where he gets it from, but come on people. If you can't put the needs of your child or grandchild ahead of your own for one day (his birthday!), you are seriously messed up. Again, I say, be thankful. Be thankful you have the clarity you need to move on and never ever look back. Stay strong! xoxo, L