Bugged and wistful...argh!
Bugged and wistful...argh!
Hi everyone. Just hoping for some perspective. I recently discovered my ex N fiance (who is now serving in the middle east) has been checking my company's website (company I work for, not my company) since March. We have a blog, bios, etc. on our website. We broke up in January and I told him there would be no contact. So, he hasn't tried to contact me...but his sister was in contact until March when I told her I just couldn't maintain contact anymore. She has respected my wishes.
The thing is, my ex knows I am responsible for monitoring traffic at our website and that I can often see who has visited. He comes in once a week like clockwork (at least that I can see...he might be doing it more from undetectable domain names) and it's left me with a variety of feelings. First, I'm really bugged that even though he hasn't tried to contact me as I requested, he's still monitoring me and trying to let me know he's watching. Second, it's actually made me feel sad and miss him (or the person I thought he was before realizing he's an N), so i've been feeling wistful...which is exactly how I don't want to feel. It's messing with my head. But perhaps that's exactly what he intended by coming to my company's website, huh?
I've suspected he'll try and make contact when his tour of duty is over end of this year/early next. But until now, I held out hope that MAYBE he did get the message when we broke up and he'll just stay away. The last communication I had with his sister I told her I think her brother's a narcissist and I had hoped that would get back to him and help seal the deal--he'd stay away for good (he knows how I feel about my first N and how I didn't buckle to 1st N's attempts to reconcile). So now, I feel like he's almost back in my life...checking on me through my website and will likely make contact when he returns. While I'm trying to get over it all and rebuild my life, I feel like he's inhibiting that progress now.
If anyone responds, please don't think me rude if I don't comment/respond tonight. For some crazy reason, I can't post from home--something about my security settings that I haven't been able to fix. I can only post to this board from work.
Thanks in advance for any perspective!
You are just being mind
Wistful
they all do this...
Thanks!
I loved this post
Ghostbuster
they must be in control at all times
Lisa
Quietude
oh yeah....
Curious
Ghostbuster